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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
I think this is true to an extent, but why do people think the grass is greener on the other side? I can see getting a divorce if cheating, mental or physical abuse is involved, but why get a divorce for anything else. Work it out. Why even marry again, because now you have to get used to a whole new set of issues the new spouse may have. I would rather stay with the original spouse since I would be used to his issues.
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Hard to say.
Wine is one of my hobbies, and rather unexpectedly in the last few years I have developed a sideline where I appraise wine cellars to be considered among the assets in divorce proceedings.
It has been interesting work, and in virtually every case I will have some serious face time with one or both parties in which the reasons for the divorce will come up.
I have been surprised by what I have seen. But so far I have not run into what I would call a frivolous divorce. These people were genuinely hurt and the hardest part of doing these assignments is being a good listener as an adult with a life and children breaks down in front of a complete stranger.
The reasons vary, and the severity of the reasons vary. But then again- when I say the severity of the reasons vary, that is my perception of the severity. That is a far cry from what a person actually experienced.
I think that most people want desperately to love and be loved and will go to certain lengths- often great lengths- to preserve a relationship. Beyond that, it gets to our desire to maintain the status quo- better the devil you know and all that.
And so, as I see it- the genuine desire to divorce someone has not changed quite so much as the practical ability to execute that divorce and move on.
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