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Originally Posted by AGDee
I'm curious what you all think are "frivolous" reasons for divorce? Which problems can be fixed that people get divorced over? Yeah, like Brittney Spears first marriage was a frivolous marriage and divorce, but outside of celebrities, what makes you think that people don't work very hard to try to make it work before they give up on it?
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Gwirl, your real question is what folks think are "frivolous" reasons to get married... Because you can only get divorced if you were married...
But folks break up in relationships all the time due to "legion" reasons.
Kids these days--and a kid is under 25 in my eyes--think that working hard on a relationship is sharing your myspace page with your significant other...
When bills cannot be paid because one person depleted the bank account happens, it is easier to logically come to the conclusion that a pair-bond should end... So why work hard to try to make it work before they give up on it?
Whereas, really, the logic should be placed, first, without romantic blinders, on HOW mates overall spending habits and values before formalizing and legalizing a pair-bond relationship. Then when a bank depletion occurs, each person can come to a rationalization that each other has these different cultural norms to progress to a mutually beneficial relationship...
Basically, until my husband and I sat down with a financial advisor, our relationship was headed for disaster. But my husband began to understand my financial values and goals, whereas, I began to understand his financial values and goals. We would have been better off if we had done that before we were married. But we did not. So a word to the wise:
No Romance Without Finance is a Nuisance...
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