Life's short, get a divorce

[AGDee]

I'm curious what you all think are "frivolous" reasons for divorce? Which problems can be fixed that people get divorced over? Yeah, like Brittney Spears first marriage was a frivolous marriage and divorce, but outside of celebrities, what makes you think that people don't work very hard to try to make it work before they give up on it?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I'm curious what you all think are "frivolous" reasons for divorce? Which problems can be fixed that people get divorced over? Yeah, like Brittney Spears first marriage was a frivolous marriage and divorce, but outside of celebrities, what makes you think that people don't work very hard to try to make it work before they give up on it?

Gwirl, your real question is what folks think are "frivolous" reasons to get married... Because you can only get divorced if you were married...

But folks break up in relationships all the time due to "legion" reasons.

Kids these days--and a kid is under 25 in my eyes--think that working hard on a relationship is sharing your myspace page with your significant other...

When bills cannot be paid because one person depleted the bank account happens, it is easier to logically come to the conclusion that a pair-bond should end... So why work hard to try to make it work before they give up on it?

Whereas, really, the logic should be placed, first, without romantic blinders, on HOW mates overall spending habits and values before formalizing and legalizing a pair-bond relationship. Then when a bank depletion occurs, each person can come to a rationalization that each other has these different cultural norms to progress to a mutually beneficial relationship...

Basically, until my husband and I sat down with a financial advisor, our relationship was headed for disaster. But my husband began to understand my financial values and goals, whereas, I began to understand his financial values and goals. We would have been better off if we had done that before we were married. But we did not. So a word to the wise:

No Romance Without Finance is a Nuisance...

[EE-BO]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Whereas, really, the logic should be placed, first, without romantic blinders, on HOW mates overall spending habits and values before formalizing and legalizing a pair-bond relationship. Then when a bank depletion occurs, each person can come to a rationalization that each other has these different cultural norms to progress to a mutually beneficial relationship...

Basically, until my husband and I sat down with a financial advisor, our relationship was headed for disaster. But my husband began to understand my financial values and goals, whereas, I began to understand his financial values and goals. We would have been better off if we had done that before we were married. But we did not. So a word to the wise:

No Romance Without Finance is a Nuisance...

Very well said! A relative of mine spent 10 years paying off bills and restoring her credit after a former spouse did his damage. It amazed me to see just what he was able to get away with and leave her responsible to take care of.

I don't look on this as "unromantic" as it were, though some might think it a bit cold and calculating to think about money before marriage. Any kind of long term relationship takes work- and I figure adjusting one's personal financial discipline, if necessary, is just one more way that one puts some necessary personal effort into a union.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by EE-BO

I don't look on this as "unromantic" as it were, though some might think it a bit cold and calculating to think about money before marriage. Any kind of long term relationship takes work- and I figure adjusting one's personal financial discipline, if necessary, is just one more way that one puts some necessary personal effort into a union.

A work colleague told me her husband spent all her money while she was submitted the divorce paperwork. But there were several other reasons for her divorce, too that I won't go into.

Most couples are thought to divorce because finances.

However, here is the divorce decline article in the newspaper. Interesting...