Life's short, get a divorce

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

What is so positive about "just working things out?"

What if things CAN'T be "worked out"?

The irony here is that it's a very American viewpoint that therapy can solve all issues - that's not at all true. All the counseling in the world can't save a bad marriage - and people change over time. The desire to be married by a certain (usually young) age carries the risk of change, the risk of divorce - and bending over backwards to make it work, while certainly a romantic ideal, seems counterproductive, tedious, and borderline insane to me.

You can't foresee all the problems in a marriage, and you can't just up and decide to "make" something work. To think otherwise is at best arrogant.

How is that arrogant? Of course no one can forsee the problems in a marriage, but the problems can be fixed. Couples get frustrated and then they just want to give up. Why even get married, because there are going to be problems. For the people who just want to give up, should just stay single and keep meeting the same men and women at bars and night clubs for the rest of their lives and run the risk of catching AIDS.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

How is that arrogant? Of course no one can forsee the problems in a marriage, but the problems can be fixed. Couples get frustrated and then they just want to give up. Why even get married, because there are going to be problems. For the people who just want to give up, should just stay single and keep meeting the same men and women at bars and night clubs for the rest of their lives and run the risk of catching AIDS.

wow, this certainly was a nasty post, and not at all cheerful. Not to mention, if you kept meeting the same men & women the chance of catching AIDS would go way down.

Problems cannot be fixed if BOTH people aren't willing to work at it. My best friend wanted to work out the problems in her marriage, but her husband did not. She had no choice. She certainly didn't want to get divorced.