Life's short, get a divorce

AKA_Monet · #1 05-10-2007, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

AGDee, you make some very valid points, but I wouldn't marry a guy that I didn't think would be a great husband for me. Of course, I would make sure he and I shared the same family values. I've never been married, but I'm sure it can be hard. Through all the trials and tribulations that come with marriage, there are some positive things also, and I think a couple really should work through the negative things by focusing on the positive. Marriage is a blessing from God and anything from God is always good. That means marriage is good, it's the people in the marriage that make it bad. If a couple doesn't want to work it out and then divorce, then why even get married again to someone else. What's the point? Of course I don't think anyone should be miserable in a marriage, but it's never going to get better if both are not willing to work at it. It takes two. If one is willing and the other one isn't, of course it's not going to work. I just really think our generation is very selfish and are not willing to sacrifice. Marriage is a sacrifice. The Bible says for men to love your wives like Jesus loved the Church and gave himself for it. That's sacrifice. So through the trials and tribulations, I'm just a believer that if a couple is willing to work together and sacrifice for one another, it can work, even through the bad times.

Sweetheart, ADGee has been through a lot and has a different life experience from you.

Do not say what you won't do when you have not been married. You never know until it is actually done... And believe me, the comment on the picture is VERY EASY to do. But the longterm repercussions are costly. However, when caught in a bad marriage and no fault of your own like several GC'ers, then you have to find strength to carry on.

If you do believe in God and are a Christian, the you have to KNOW Phillipians 11:17. God will give you what you can bare for several reasons.

You can enjoy the good times, but you must endure the bad times if you are to survive...

cheerfulgreek · #2 05-10-2007, 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Sweetheart, ADGee has been through a lot and has a different life experience from you.

Do not say what you won't do when you have not been married. You never know until it is actually done... And believe me, the comment on the picture is VERY EASY to do. But the longterm repercussions are costly. However, when caught in a bad marriage and no fault of your own like several GC'ers, then you have to find strength to carry on.

If you do believe in God and are a Christian, the you have to KNOW Phillipians 11:17. God will give you what you can bare for several reasons.

You can enjoy the good times, but you must endure the bad times if you are to survive...

I know. It's hard for me to speak on it when I haven't done it, but a lot of people who have been married for 30, 40 and 50 years don't have a recipe for a successful marriage. They sacrifce and work it out.

AKA_Monet · #3 05-10-2007, 01:37 AM

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I know. It's hard for me to speak on it when I haven't done it, but a lot of people who have been married for 30, 40 and 50 years don't have a recipe for a successful marriage. They sacrifce and work it out.

Who do you know personally that has been married 30 years? Then you need to ask them how they did it.

How do you measure success in a marriage? I know people who don't speak for several years.

Hayle, I know a couple married 40+ years who attended a marriage enrichment course...

No, it isn't just about sacrifice and working things out. It's about surrendering and giving it up to God...

James · #4 05-10-2007, 01:39 AM

I thought it was about superior social skills coupled with romantic passion.

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Who do you know personally that has been married 30 years? Then you need to ask them how they did it.

How do you measure success in a marriage? I know people who don't speak for several years.

Hayle, I know a couple married 40+ years who attended a marriage enrichment course...

No, it isn't just about sacrifice and working things out. It's about surrendering and giving it up to God...

AKA_Monet · #5 05-10-2007, 01:43 AM

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I thought it was about superior social skills coupled with romantic passion.

Yeah, I mean its about roses, breakfast in bed, a large house with a white picket fence, and doing EVERYTHING together!!!

cheerfulgreek · #6 05-10-2007, 02:02 AM

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Yeah, I mean its about roses, breakfast in bed, a large house with a white picket fence, and doing EVERYTHING together!!!

lol

James · #7 05-10-2007, 02:36 AM

Its not? Then why do we decide to get married based on a romantic attachment?

If we do get married for that reason but can't sustain the romance, then we should leave right?

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Yeah, I mean its about roses, breakfast in bed, a large house with a white picket fence, and doing EVERYTHING together!!!

AKA_Monet · #8 05-10-2007, 03:40 PM

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Its not? Then why do we decide to get married based on a romantic attachment?

If we do get married for that reason but can't sustain the romance, then we should leave right?

So what are you calling "romantic"? The Kissy-Kissy, mushy-mushy stuff?

Or a deep soul-connection the gurus talk about all the time at Belief.net?

I think it is about mutual respect for someone deeper than that one has ever felt before.

If I left my husband for whatever reason, it would be a lame reason no matter what I thought was the "touchy-feely reason on the day" like this chit is ala carte with Carte Blanche. I would be physically ill and unable to control simultaneous vomiting along with bowel movements. That is how sick I would be...

If my husband left me, that bimbo had better have a "magic Disney World Universal Studios All Access Florida Amusement Parks coochie"... She'd better have Sith Lord Manipulations up her stuh...

'Cuz what I am giving him...

He'd be stoopid to leave... Some of my "former business partners" would be pissed...

cheerfulgreek · #9 05-10-2007, 01:53 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Who do you know personally that has been married 30 years? Then you need to ask them how they did it.

How do you measure success in a marriage? I know people who don't speak for several years.

Hayle, I know a couple married 40+ years who attended a marriage enrichment course...

No, it isn't just about sacrifice and working things out. It's about surrendering and giving it up to God...

Before my dad passed away, my parents were married for over 39 years. That's what I said. I think it's not only about sacrifice, but also about letting Christ in the marriage, and keeping the marriage fresh and new also.