how do sororities decide?

[SWTXBelle]

An additional point to consider - chapters do not go public with their opinions of individual pnms, or why they did not chose to extend an invitation or a bid.

No one is questioning the right of both pnms and chapters to make their memberships selections based on whatever works for them. The point is whether or not a pnm should criticize a group simply because they do not meet her individual criteria, especially if said criteria seems shallow, petty, or stupid. Also, it seems to me that most GCers simply believe that a pnm should give a chapter every opportunity - including attending pref - to change the pnms mind. Not sign a bid you don't want - simply go to the party to make sure your opinion holds.

NPC groups do not discuss membership selection at all - so those on the outside cannot say with any authority WHY a pnm was cut, they can only assume they know. And that has proven problematic here on GC, also.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

No one is questioning the right of both pnms and chapters to make their memberships selections based on whatever works for them...... most GCers simply believe that a pnm should give a chapter every opportunity - including attending pref - to change the pnms mind. Not sign a bid you don't want - simply go to the party to make sure your opinion holds.

Danke: that's exactly the point I was trying to get across.