how do sororities decide?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by srmom

Okay, so it's totally fine for chapter members to be picky so that they can keep up the prestige of the organization, yet a pnm is raked over the coals for being picky and deciding that she does not want to attend pref at a chapter she does not feel is right for her.

I guess what's good for the goose is NOT for the gander.

BTW - I am not in any way advocating letting anyone who wants in, but I do think it's a bit hypocritical to criticize the opening poster for her pickiness and then say that chapters have to be picky to keep up their prestige...

I think prestige may be the wrong word. GLOs are values-based organizations. We should not accept PNMs who do not meet our values. Sure, some chapters choose their members based on shallow criteria, and I think that is just as bad as a PNM not giving chapters who are "beneath" them a chance.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I think prestige may be the wrong word. GLOs are values-based organizations. We should not accept PNMs who do not meet our values. Sure, some chapters choose their members based on shallow criteria, and I think that is just as bad as a PNM not giving chapters who are "beneath" them a chance.

True.

And really, PNMs are free to accept/decline whatever invites/bids they wish.

But I also think that they forfeit their right to complain about the outcome of their recruitment if they choose to decline pref invites/bids.

Too often, PNMs drop out or don't accepts bids, then they complain about the outcome and "going bidless" when in fact they had the opportunity to join.

I just say that you're free to do what you want as a PNM, but you can't blame the process/system if you drop out or decline invites.

The system is set up to place you in a sorority, just not always THE sorority you love.