Loved Ones Agianst Sororities :(

[KappaKittyCat]

Originally Posted by RareTreasure

He doesn't want me to seek support any where else. He wants to be everything.

That right there - to me, that screams abuse. It doesn't matter if he's not hitting you or threatening you, it's still abuse. "Do what I say or I'm going to leave" is abusive.

My gut, from what you've posted: Whether or not you join a sorority, you need to get out of that relationship. I know you love him, but this doesn't sound good for you. By keeping you from developing social networks other than him, he's kept you from growing into a whole person at the precise time in your life when you're supposed to be growing into a whole person. If he leaves you 5 or 10 years from now, you'll be in a lot worse shape.

Get out now.

[RareTreasure]

Originally Posted by KappaKittyCat

By keeping you from developing social networks other than him, he's kept you from growing into a whole person at the precise time in your life when you're supposed to be growing into a whole person. If he leaves you 5 or 10 years from now, you'll be in a lot worse shape.

By the end of this semester, Iim going to write him a long, well thought out, well put together letter telling him that I'm going to do it. I tell myself what you just said all of the time, hearing someone else say it makes me feel worst that i havent done anything. I have never been the type or person to let anyone accept family and elders tell me anything. I cant let him run my life....I know 10 years from now I will hate him if I dont do it.

[texas*princess]

I say kick his @$$ to the curb.

My ex (who at that point I had dated for like 3 or 4 yrs) wanted to break up with me the NIGHT BEFORE MY INIATIATION b/c he didn't want me to join my sorority. I said, "Ok ... thanks, you can leave now!"

Don't let the door hit you on the way out, buddy.

Yeah, I was sad, but my sisters were there for me. If he was going to dump me for something like that, to hell with him