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Originally Posted by RareTreasure
I thank you all for your replies. I just dont know how to go about making it happen. Where do I start? I dont want to just straight out tell him its over, your controlling, and im joining!
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Unfortunately, that is exactly what you have to do. The only way you get rid of a control freak is by taking control of the situation, ending the relationship and not giving him a chance to talk you out of it. I say unfortunately because this is going to be very hard for you- it would be hard for anyone even if they were glad to do it.
Let me offer one suggestion. Forget pledging a sorority for a second. Sit back, close your eyes, count to 30 slowly and then imagine it is tomorrow and he is out of your life. How does that make you feel? Surely there are many emotions there- but is there also a big sigh of relief?
The nature and tone of your posts suggest to me that you really want to pledge, but that you being in a sorority is not the real issue. The real issue is you having control over some aspects of your life- and your desire to pledge is just the first of many big dreams you will likely have to give up if you stay in this relationship.
How controlling has this person been in your life? Has he ever gotten physical- even just shoving or grabbing your arm?
If there is any chance he might lose it if you break up with him, do it in a public place, or at the very least have a strong friend or two in the next room.
It is impossible to know the real story just reading it on the internet- but from what you have presented this sounds like someone who could potentially get dangerous if he does not get his way. But don't let that scare you away from leaving him if you want to. If he is potentially dangerous now, imagine how he is going to be down the road- especially if you get married and then he really feels like he owns you!
Hope this helps and good luck to you with whatever you decide.
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