Loved Ones Agianst Sororities :(

Just saying "it will work out" or "everything will be fine" probably isn't enough for him. Find out his real concerns and make a plan to help combate those. Like, if he thinks you wont spend any time with him, and you will choose the sorority over him you should make a plan that maybe every wednesday night is date night and no matter what is happening with the sorority you will spend that night with him. If he is afraid you will change because of the sorority make a plan that you will give it a try and one month from joining you will have a serious talk about what if anything has changed and together you can reevaluate your joining.

When I was a freshmen, I had a boyfriend who was very against me joining a sorority, so I didn't. But we broke up, I joined my sophomore year and now I'm the chapter's president.

[RareTreasure]

Originally Posted by jessicaelaine

Just saying "it will work out" or "everything will be fine" probably isn't enough for him. Find out his real concerns and make a plan to help combate those. Like, if he thinks you wont spend any time with him, and you will choose the sorority over him you should make a plan that maybe every wednesday night is date night and no matter what is happening with the sorority you will spend that night with him. If he is afraid you will change because of the sorority make a plan that you will give it a try and one month from joining you will have a serious talk about what if anything has changed and together you can reevaluate your joining.

When I was a freshmen, I had a boyfriend who was very against me joining a sorority, so I didn't. But we broke up, I joined my sophomore year and now I'm the chapter's president.

Aww! Congratulations! I dont wanna wish bad luck on us.....but it would make my life a lot easier if we broke up. Easy, but not happier. I am extremely happy being with him, but I could be even happier with him and me joining. Then, he would be even more humiliating to bread up with him and not be accepted!!! That would be the worst of it all!!! But I will always keep a positive attitude and work hard to get what I want. I have to put it in god's hands.....I wish I could speed up my boyfriend coming along and getting with the program! lol

[MSKKG]

In your 1st post, you said that he said that joining a sorority is a want not a necessity. In the post where you mentioned your 2 jobs, you enumerated all his wants concerning your decision. He can have wants and you can't?!? Let me reiterate what others have said, get out of this abusive relationship now!

Really from some of the things you have said, it doesn't sound like you love him but are just used to being in a relationship with him. Look down the road. Will he not want you to join a garden club because it will take time away from him? Will this friend or that family member not be acceptable to him? He is a controller--that is not love.