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Originally Posted by RareTreasure
He doesn't want me to seek support any where else. He wants to be everything. He wants to talk to me about everything, be my best friend and everything, but he isn't being realistic because he can not be a human and be everything a person needs. When I'm sad about my family and lonely without friends, he wans me to not be sad because i have him.
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Being in a relationship isn't about melding into one person. It isn't about being each other's one and only everything. It's about being two separate people who love, respect, and complement each other. I think it's important for couples to have their own lives, their own friends, and their own hobbies. Couples should spend a lot of time with each other but not
ALL their time. You need to have time to hang out with your family, to hang out with your friends, and to hang out by yourself.
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Originally Posted by RareTreasure
What do you recommend that a person does when the one person you have bonded with for 5 years says "If you join a sorority I cant be with you"??
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I know it's hard to think about breaking up with someone who you've been with for so long. One of my college friends was in a bad relationship. They fought constantly. Senior year, he cheated on her, but she forgave him and took him back. When she was debating whether to take him back, she confessed that there were other reasons she wanted to take him back besides the fact that she still loved him. She told me that she was scared because he was her first real boyfriend and she had not been single since junior year of high school. She told me that she had invested five years of her life to him and she didn't want to throw away her five year investment and not have anything to show for it (i.e. marriage). I tried to convince her that if something is not working out, you should walk away (accept that you've lost out on what you've invested so far) and not keep investing more (risking losing out even more). When you're young, it's easier to walk away from a relationship that's not working. It's much harder when you're yoked to one another through marriage or through children.
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