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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
Why was that broad? Please explain.
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Ok...you have some people that when asked what are they looking for in a mate, they say the basics and not really go into detail, but it depends on the listener. Once the listener has an idea of what the basics are, they set out to achieve being successful at doing just enough without really going above and beyond...
For instance, and it may be trivial but you would be surprised, you say you want an honest guy. But honest about what exactly?
Some people can work on basics but what about details?
And let's face it...on the other side of the spectrum they may be too honest borderline blunt, or, you may know the whole storybook too soon because of that honesty.
And besides....how honest are both sides really willing to be?
That's where standards kick in. How much of yourself are you willing to give up to the other person and is it equitable to what they are also putting on the table?
My dating standards:
Someone who is honest
Financially stable
Independent
1 or no kids
Non smoker
Not a lot of emotional luggage
Can hold a good conversation
and those are some of my beginners.
take a wild guess at what are my non negotiables are and why....*wink*
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