Is sex really that big of a deal?

AKA_Monet · #1 03-15-2007, 10:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't get it. Rephrase that please, I need a break down every now and again.

Sweetheart,

You said you were a virgin, right? While I do not have issues with that most men find fantasize about being the cause (spelled cost) of a lose of a woman's virginity. It is the best thing to do since sliced bread. So, he can be a 1 hit wonder and that would be your concept of sex...

So you are attracting the "players" because they think--no fathom--that they're little shriveled up vienna sausage will "teach" you about the Universe of sex. Simply because they think you are naive. Besides, the word is out on you and your choice of virginity... You are the "Holy Grail" of sexual encounters...

You can take all the Sexuality classes you like that will teach you the mechanics and psychology associated with sex. But the truest essence of your own sexual expression has to be a manifestation of your Spirit... Otherwise, you are just going through the motions and you are letting a prick pervert masterbate and defecate on you...

A avoid the shock of sex as not being what it is all cracked up to be is to meditate using the Tantra. That is just one avenue. It takes you to a higher level in your mind. It assist you developing the kind of relationship skills to surpass those of vows. It keeps you true to yourself and your mate.

My question is to you is, have you been able to seduce the man your in your dreams? Not the man of your dreams--but the man who God is leads you to? Be mindful, sometimes God has a sense of humor...

In your post, I found your tone to be one of frustration by how men treat you by the endgame. They are doing that because you cannot be swayed from your beliefs. And they are shocked. They belittle YOUR choice of chastity to divert you into something God has not asked of you, yet.

So, are you beginning to waver? Here's your deal:

You are free from sexually transmited diseases, free from the anger and humiliation of some sexual encounters, and free of thinking that you can "Sport Fcuk"...

But you are relegated to being called a prude fascist, that you have no comparisons, and an old maid and you find yourself totally alone.

I want you tell the guy you like this when he pressures you, "I am waiting for you to be multi-orgasmic so that all my chakras are enlightented and heightened"

Then you need to say to him, "Thru our minds, we can explore errogenous zones when I slip my f-i-n-g-e-r-s coursing over your heart. In this way, we build on our goal that surpasses ejaculation..."

And you haveta say that crap very sexy like...

Let us know what happens?

Whatever you decided, should you choose to have sex, have your man or men wear a condom(s). And if you don't want children, take birth control.

Your friendly neighborhood Public Health Announcement for the Year.

Kindly,

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital

AKA2D '91 · #2 03-15-2007, 10:31 PM

Onlee euw, Soror!

AKA_Monet · #3 03-17-2007, 07:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AKA2D '91

Onlee euw, Soror!

But you know I'm right...

BlessedOne04 · #4 03-15-2007, 10:50 PM

Um yeah what AKA Monet said. Let me get my pen that is good material!!

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #5 03-15-2007, 11:04 PM

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

Drolefille · #6 03-16-2007, 01:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

Amen.

That said, looking through a church or religious group is a good place to start

christiangirl · #7 03-16-2007, 02:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Amen.

That said, looking through a church or religious group is a good place to start

Here's what happened the last time I found a guy at church.....I thought you might enjoy this: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=67657

Wow, Monet....that was a whol' lot in one post. Umm...well, in answer to some of that 1. I took the class because it was a psych class, part of my major, taught by my favorite professor 2. No, I'm not wavering, it's not worth it. 3. I'll keep all that in mind....tantric....hmmm....

Drolefille · #8 03-16-2007, 02:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Here's what happened the last time I found a guy at church.....I thought you might enjoy this: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=67657

Wow, Monet....that was a whol' lot in one post. Umm...well, in answer to some of that 1. I took the class because it was a psych class, part of my major, taught by my favorite professor 2. No, I'm not wavering, it's not worth it. 3. I'll keep all that in mind....tantric....hmmm....

Ok, well they're not ALL going to be winners... I was just thinking your odds would be better there. I'm lucky, I found my guy in high school but we share the same religion and beliefs and that has made a BIG difference in our relationship, sexual and otherwise.

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #9 03-16-2007, 10:27 AM

The guy that was Mr. Internet-Cartoon-Man was a guy I met at the Baptist organization at my college. However, I have met many wonderful guys in that same ministry. Every single guy you meet at churches and college ministries are not going to be amazing, but there are some that deserve a second glance

Diamond Darlin’ · #10 03-16-2007, 11:15 AM

Okay, so, I would just like to thank you. You've given me hope. LOL, I'm a Fr. and I have never had sex. I datd the same guy for four year, from 8th to 11th grade, we broke up when he joined his frat, and i was still in HS, and now 2 years later we are,... um... Friends, but more then that, I guess u could say friends with benifits cus neither of us is ready to put the work into a full time relationship, especially since we do not go to the same college, and it is hard for us to get to see one another. It has been a real strugle in the past that i wouldent have sex with him. I think it gets better and better, but I was begenning to feel like i was the only person in college who hasent had sex. It was driving me insane. Now i know there are others out there to look up to. THANKS!!!!

AlphaFrog · #11 03-16-2007, 11:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Diamond Darlin’

Okay, so, I would just like to thank you. You've given me hope. LOL, I'm a Fr. and I have never had sex. I datd the same guy for four year, from 8th to 11th grade, we broke up when he joined his frat, and i was still in HS, and now 2 years later we are,... um... Friends, but more then that, I guess u could say friends with benifits cus neither of us is ready to put the work into a full time relationship, especially since we do not go to the same college, and it is hard for us to get to see one another. It has been a real strugle in the past that i wouldent have sex with him. I think it gets better and better, but I was begenning to feel like i was the only person in college who hasent had sex. It was driving me insane. Now i know there are others out there to look up to. THANKS!!!!

Hon, if you're a virgin, you do NOT have friends with benefits. Unless they're only getting the part-timer's compensation.

cheerfulgreek · #12 03-17-2007, 12:14 AM

AKA Monet, you know so much. You're good

.

I sat out of college for a year and through the 5 years I've completed I'm finally graduating this year

. Throughout college I slept with one guy. My X who turned out to be a jerk. He new I was a virgin and he treated me like a queen until one thing led to another. After that he started acting like a jerk, then he cheated on me. I was so hurt. I dated other guys but I wasn't intimate with them. At the time I wanted my X back. He kept wanting to get back together, and I did everytime, thinking he would change, but he didn't. He only would want me back whenever he had a problem with semen back-up

, if you girls know what I mean. He wants to get back again now, but I'm not going to do it again. I think sex is great but only with a guy who really cares for me and loves me. Don't give in if you don't think it's right, remember guys will use you. They're such pigs, well at least most of them are. Make sure he's caring, loving and of course attractive to you. Sometimes it's hard to to tell, but you'll know. Make him wait a long long time and see how long he sticks around. If he bails, then he's a pig. Well, then again I made my X wait a year. He waited, but I heard that he had other girls on the side without me knowing about it. He such an ass. Well good luck!! Keep us posted.

tld221 · #13 03-17-2007, 12:29 AM

for a minute i thought cheerfulgreek = christiangirl. anyone else?

James · #14 03-17-2007, 12:58 AM

They are not the same?

Quote:

Originally Posted by tld221

for a minute i thought cheerfulgreek = christiangirl. anyone else?

PrettyBoy · #15 03-17-2007, 01:45 AM

I don't think it's a big deal at the beginning. Now, eventually I'm gonna be ready to get busy with her, but for the most part, I gotta know the girl for a while before I'm intimate with her. She has to be the one. I've always been a one woman man, so I've never been down with sleeping around with a lot of women, that's why I wouldn't get involved with a woman who has slept with a lot of guys. I didn't and don't sleep around, so I don't think I should be with someone who has. Christiangirl if I were you, I would wait until you either get married or find the right guy. It really is no way to know if you'll get it right the 1st time, that's the risk you'll have to take. Men/women now a days are a trip. People just aren't into long term courting and marriage like they were 50 years ago. It's all about who can I take home from the club tonight, or how can I brag about taking a woman's virginity. Hold out as long as you can. Good luck.