Is sex really that big of a deal?

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

As long as you're only talking to other virgins or fully explain yourself every time, you'll be fine.

I totally agree. That's why I didn't bring it up till DD brought it up because we knew (in general) what the other was talking about....but inside jokes on a public forum apparently cause 4 pages worth of confusion. Thanks for respecting my opinion, you are a gem on this site!

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You need to protect yourself with condom(s) and birth control if you are sleeping with a man for the first time even if it is your husband.

Hmmm....I always felt this way until recently. BC yes, but a condom with my own husband? Now I've heard the horror stories about women and children getting HIV from daddy, even though mommy waited to she was married. It's devastating and my husband's gettin' tested for everything under the sun before we walk that walk, but even so....It's just pathetic where our world is that you have to say, "I'm dedicating my life to you, but I still think you might give me something."

*Only problem is, at my age, my longest relationship was for less than 4 months and it was back in high school. It seems waiting till I'm married is the reason that I can't find a guy to stay with me long enough to marry me.

Originally Posted by interestladiLTA

I have decided to wait until I am married to have sex. I have dated guys with very strong sex drives. One guy in particular tried to force me to have sex. Now that I have found someone I can see myself with forever I struggle with keeping my promise to myself and just being sexually frustrated or give into my desires and put my self at risks for a broken heart and/or or the other risks that come with sex...

I'm sooo sorry that happened to you, but I applaud you now. That's terrifying! It's not easy to keep this status (like just because you make a promise to yourself, it's easy to keep it). Welcome to the support group...what are you, #3 or #4? lol