Is sex really that big of a deal?

christiangirl · #1 03-15-2007, 02:07 PM

James, I don't believe that's true, but I took a psych class about sexuality once, and out of the whole 100+ people in it, I was the only one who thought so. That's incredibly irksome, because it's like they're saying there's just no hope for me to have a post-high school relationship.

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You're a challenge for these fools. So how are you dating players?

I don't get it. Rephrase that please, I need a break down every now and again.

AKA_Monet · #2 03-15-2007, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't get it. Rephrase that please, I need a break down every now and again.

Sweetheart,

You said you were a virgin, right? While I do not have issues with that most men find fantasize about being the cause (spelled cost) of a lose of a woman's virginity. It is the best thing to do since sliced bread. So, he can be a 1 hit wonder and that would be your concept of sex...

So you are attracting the "players" because they think--no fathom--that they're little shriveled up vienna sausage will "teach" you about the Universe of sex. Simply because they think you are naive. Besides, the word is out on you and your choice of virginity... You are the "Holy Grail" of sexual encounters...

You can take all the Sexuality classes you like that will teach you the mechanics and psychology associated with sex. But the truest essence of your own sexual expression has to be a manifestation of your Spirit... Otherwise, you are just going through the motions and you are letting a prick pervert masterbate and defecate on you...

A avoid the shock of sex as not being what it is all cracked up to be is to meditate using the Tantra. That is just one avenue. It takes you to a higher level in your mind. It assist you developing the kind of relationship skills to surpass those of vows. It keeps you true to yourself and your mate.

My question is to you is, have you been able to seduce the man your in your dreams? Not the man of your dreams--but the man who God is leads you to? Be mindful, sometimes God has a sense of humor...

In your post, I found your tone to be one of frustration by how men treat you by the endgame. They are doing that because you cannot be swayed from your beliefs. And they are shocked. They belittle YOUR choice of chastity to divert you into something God has not asked of you, yet.

So, are you beginning to waver? Here's your deal:

You are free from sexually transmited diseases, free from the anger and humiliation of some sexual encounters, and free of thinking that you can "Sport Fcuk"...

But you are relegated to being called a prude fascist, that you have no comparisons, and an old maid and you find yourself totally alone.

I want you tell the guy you like this when he pressures you, "I am waiting for you to be multi-orgasmic so that all my chakras are enlightented and heightened"

Then you need to say to him, "Thru our minds, we can explore errogenous zones when I slip my f-i-n-g-e-r-s coursing over your heart. In this way, we build on our goal that surpasses ejaculation..."

And you haveta say that crap very sexy like...

Let us know what happens?

Whatever you decided, should you choose to have sex, have your man or men wear a condom(s). And if you don't want children, take birth control.

Your friendly neighborhood Public Health Announcement for the Year.

Kindly,

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital

AKA2D '91 · #3 03-15-2007, 10:31 PM

Onlee euw, Soror!

AKA_Monet · #4 03-17-2007, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA2D '91

Onlee euw, Soror!

But you know I'm right...

BlessedOne04 · #5 03-15-2007, 10:50 PM

Um yeah what AKA Monet said. Let me get my pen that is good material!!

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #6 03-15-2007, 11:04 PM

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

Drolefille · #7 03-16-2007, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

Amen.

That said, looking through a church or religious group is a good place to start

christiangirl · #8 03-16-2007, 02:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Amen.

That said, looking through a church or religious group is a good place to start

Here's what happened the last time I found a guy at church.....I thought you might enjoy this: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=67657

Wow, Monet....that was a whol' lot in one post. Umm...well, in answer to some of that 1. I took the class because it was a psych class, part of my major, taught by my favorite professor 2. No, I'm not wavering, it's not worth it. 3. I'll keep all that in mind....tantric....hmmm....

Drolefille · #9 03-16-2007, 02:29 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

Here's what happened the last time I found a guy at church.....I thought you might enjoy this: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=67657

Wow, Monet....that was a whol' lot in one post. Umm...well, in answer to some of that 1. I took the class because it was a psych class, part of my major, taught by my favorite professor 2. No, I'm not wavering, it's not worth it. 3. I'll keep all that in mind....tantric....hmmm....

Ok, well they're not ALL going to be winners... I was just thinking your odds would be better there. I'm lucky, I found my guy in high school but we share the same religion and beliefs and that has made a BIG difference in our relationship, sexual and otherwise.

Diamond Darlin’ · #10 03-16-2007, 11:15 AM

Okay, so, I would just like to thank you. You've given me hope. LOL, I'm a Fr. and I have never had sex. I datd the same guy for four year, from 8th to 11th grade, we broke up when he joined his frat, and i was still in HS, and now 2 years later we are,... um... Friends, but more then that, I guess u could say friends with benifits cus neither of us is ready to put the work into a full time relationship, especially since we do not go to the same college, and it is hard for us to get to see one another. It has been a real strugle in the past that i wouldent have sex with him. I think it gets better and better, but I was begenning to feel like i was the only person in college who hasent had sex. It was driving me insane. Now i know there are others out there to look up to. THANKS!!!!

cheerfulgreek · #11 03-17-2007, 12:14 AM

AKA Monet, you know so much. You're good

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I sat out of college for a year and through the 5 years I've completed I'm finally graduating this year

. Throughout college I slept with one guy. My X who turned out to be a jerk. He new I was a virgin and he treated me like a queen until one thing led to another. After that he started acting like a jerk, then he cheated on me. I was so hurt. I dated other guys but I wasn't intimate with them. At the time I wanted my X back. He kept wanting to get back together, and I did everytime, thinking he would change, but he didn't. He only would want me back whenever he had a problem with semen back-up

, if you girls know what I mean. He wants to get back again now, but I'm not going to do it again. I think sex is great but only with a guy who really cares for me and loves me. Don't give in if you don't think it's right, remember guys will use you. They're such pigs, well at least most of them are. Make sure he's caring, loving and of course attractive to you. Sometimes it's hard to to tell, but you'll know. Make him wait a long long time and see how long he sticks around. If he bails, then he's a pig. Well, then again I made my X wait a year. He waited, but I heard that he had other girls on the side without me knowing about it. He such an ass. Well good luck!! Keep us posted.

tld221 · #12 03-17-2007, 12:29 AM

for a minute i thought cheerfulgreek = christiangirl. anyone else?

James · #13 03-17-2007, 12:58 AM

They are not the same?

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for a minute i thought cheerfulgreek = christiangirl. anyone else?

interestladiLTA · #14 03-17-2007, 07:36 PM

I have decided to wait until I am married to have sex. I have dated guys with very strong sex drives. One guy in particular tried to force me to have sex. Now that I have found someone I can see myself with forever I struggle with keeping my promise to myself and just being sexually frustrated or give into my desires and put my self at risks for a broken heart and/or or the other risks that come with sex...

AKA_Monet · #15 03-17-2007, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by interestladiLTA

I have decided to wait until I am married to have sex. I have dated guys with very strong sex drives. One guy in particular tried to force me to have sex. Now that I have found someone I can see myself with forever I struggle with keeping my promise to myself and just being sexually frustrated or give into my desires and put my self at risks for a broken heart and/or or the other risks that come with sex...

Look, the scientists don't have the answers to protect your broken heart after sex.

IMO, sexual emotion should be in the realm of a Spiritual Trek or Fancy.

You NEVER know what you might enjoy sexually. Maybe you are into a "ball gag" and dominion. Maybe you are into a bear rug by the fire. Either way, gag or fire, you still have to protect yourself for the responsibilities of emotions after sex. That's why if done properly, it doesn't hurt... Not this it'll get better with more practice...

Erections just are physically impossible beyond 3 hours unless the man downs all his Vitamin V's and Cialis' in the outdoor bathtubs. Once sex is done that's your experience. You want to make the most of it especially if you are multi-orgasmic. Now, if the dude has multiples, that's different, but one erection for 3 hours... I'm sorry. Something's wrong with him... Most of the time is ~5-30 minutes at the longest... That's your time frame to get your groove...

And anyone forcing anything sexual is called rape...

And there are some women here that have suffered unspeakable sex crimes, from child abuse to rape.

If that is going on, you need to see a professional therapist and get your mind straight before any relationship with a qualified professional healthcare professional. The National Association of Mental Illness, Planned Parenthood, and several other groups exist to assist women who have been attacked and abused. Also, I think Honeychile is a crisis counselor. There are others on GC.

One avenue is the thought process of the Tantra. Others have found support in Buddhist practices.

But what you do not want is to be struggling out there along with no one but that fool that abused you.

If you have very serious issues, PM me and we find assistance.

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital