Is sex really that big of a deal?

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

I'm not trying to pick on you, but this is disturbing. You're saying that ignorance is a good thing in this situation? Is it a good thing in other situations?

Here's what I really think -- the attitude you have might be admirable in some circles (devout Christians) but you're selling yourself short. There's NO REASON to spend your life with some one-minute man who couldn't satisfy a woman to save his life. I'm not saying you should go out and hit it with the next dude on the street, but isn't it possible that the whole save-yourself-for-marriage thing was established a LONG ass time ago, when people got married at the age of 12, had 19 kids, and died before 40? Maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

Yes, that's possible....just like it's possible my husband will lay it down better than any man on the block. And even more possible that I made my decision to stay a virgin BEFORE I became a Christian, so none of that matters and the re-evaluation isn't necessary. I'm setting myself up to be content with what I have by not venturing where I don't really want to venture. I don't see it as selling myself short or being ignorant and IMO how I see it is more important than the "circles" I run in or the ones I don't. I know you're trying to look out for me, but trust me, I thought about this long and hard before I decided, even changed my mind once (then changed it back--obviously).

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

And even more possible that I made my decision to stay a virgin BEFORE I became a Christian.

Why??? I only kept that promise to myself, back when I was a "good" Christian. Before and after that period...my answer is "when I find the right person", not "when I get married".

[ziasha07]

Not to be overly religious but w/abstinence has to faith. The faith that you'll get the right man that will be for you as far as sex is concerned.

[Dionysus]

Huh?

[valkyrie]

Well, you kids have fun with your virginity. I am so bored of this topic I couldn't possibly ever read or write anything about it again. I hope you don't end up with husbands who have tiny penises, poor technique, or entitlement issues.

[ziasha07]

Dionysus: That post wasn't a response to yours. Mine just came up 2nd because my computer is a little slow.

In response to your question: I choose waiting til marriage because according to my faith it's what is right. Second to that, I don't want any kids unles I'm married. Although single mothers are some of the STRONGEST and GREATEST women I have ever seen/met, I see what they struggle with. I don't want to do that. I want to be prepared and ready.

Valkyrie: Thanks for your well wishes. I'm serious, no sarcasm.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

Why???

For a lot of reasons (STDs, pregnancy, cheating issues, etc.) but the main reason I guess...I always believed that I only wanted to spend my life with one man. So, if the person I marry is the ULTIMATE, the one who's good enough for me to spend eternity with (hopefully), then why give something so precious away to someone else? If other men aren't good enough for me to give my lifetime's worth of devotion to, then why would they be good enough to give my body...the one thing I can't ever get back, to? It's hard to put into words, like most beliefs are. But it just a feeling--I know this is right for me and that I'd be disappointed with anything else.

[AKA_Monet]

Val--

Christiangirl just won't be doing the spin move while on top the 1st go round...

[christiangirl]

Ooooohh, no no, let's stick with up, down, side to side for a little while.