Is sex really that big of a deal?

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

I'm not trying to pick on you, but this is disturbing. You're saying that ignorance is a good thing in this situation? Is it a good thing in other situations?

Here's what I really think -- the attitude you have might be admirable in some circles (devout Christians) but you're selling yourself short. There's NO REASON to spend your life with some one-minute man who couldn't satisfy a woman to save his life. I'm not saying you should go out and hit it with the next dude on the street, but isn't it possible that the whole save-yourself-for-marriage thing was established a LONG ass time ago, when people got married at the age of 12, had 19 kids, and died before 40? Maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

Yes, that's possible....just like it's possible my husband will lay it down better than any man on the block. And even more possible that I made my decision to stay a virgin BEFORE I became a Christian, so none of that matters and the re-evaluation isn't necessary. I'm setting myself up to be content with what I have by not venturing where I don't really want to venture. I don't see it as selling myself short or being ignorant and IMO how I see it is more important than the "circles" I run in or the ones I don't. I know you're trying to look out for me, but trust me, I thought about this long and hard before I decided, even changed my mind once (then changed it back--obviously).