What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

LOL why is anybody getting defensive about the tattoo thing? Okay, so dude doesn't want to date a woman with a tattoo, because he thinks it makes her trashy and unladylike and whatever. Who the eff cares? I'm guessing that most women with tattoos wouldn't want to date him either, because they're probably not interested in such a conservative, uptight guy. So everybody wins, right?

Hell, I have tattoos and I don't give a rat's ass what some guy I'd never be interested in thinks of them/me/life/whatever. To each his own, and all that crap. Don't worry about someone else's red flags unless you want to date him, you know?

Exactly. I agree. I'm very conservative also and would only get serious with a conservative woman. Everyone on here has certain standards and certain people they would continue to spend time with.

[Scandia]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Red flags:

*Gets my number at the end of the date and has called me 5 times before I get home.

Too much interest too soon is the number one sign of an abuser. If I only knew then what I know now. Forcing your number out of you and then calling the next day knowing things about you that are rather obscure is NOT a sign that it is meant to be/he is psychic/God sent him to help you/any other good thing.

[33girl]

How did this thread get from serious things like "I won't date him if he drinks and drives" or "I won't date her if she's massively in debt and keeps spending" to "OMG tattoos are super nasty!"

We have threads where we wallow in the shallow* and say what we do or don't like appearance wise, this isn't one of them. This (I thought) was a little more serious discussion about things that can be potentially dangerous or terrible when dating and I'm really disappointed that it had to turn into people being closed minded about appearance. What's next? "Redheads raise a red flag for me because of that Sidney chick from Melrose Place and they are all man stealing psychos!"

*those don't rhyme. Odd, huh?

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by 33girl

How did this thread get from serious things like "I won't date him if he drinks and drives" or "I won't date her if she's massively in debt and keeps spending" to "OMG tattoos are super nasty!"

We have threads where we wallow in the shallow* and say what we do or don't like appearance wise, this isn't one of them. This (I thought) was a little more serious discussion about things that can be potentially dangerous or terrible when dating and I'm really disappointed that it had to turn into people being closed minded about appearance. What's next? "Redheads raise a red flag for me because of that Sidney chick from Melrose Place and they are all man stealing psychos!"

*those don't rhyme. Odd, huh?

The thread is "what would raise a red or yellow flay on a first date FOR YOU." Perhaps you didn't catch that. Some people are very conservative....and would like to date conservative people. Going on a date with a girl that was tatted up would probobly raise some concerns.

[KSUViolet06]

Yellow flags:

*Talks alot about work. I hate people who are too wrapped in their jobs to have normal conversations.


Other red flags:

*Any mention of the words "just got out of the joint a month ago."

*His car has those yellow license plates that Ohio gives to people with multiple DUIs.

*His stories don't match up. Like he says "I don't have any kids", and then an hour later when you're walking by the toy boutique on the way to your car, he looks in the window and says "Oh my daughter has those skates." (true story) WTF? I thought you said you didn't have kids??

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

*Any mention of the words "just got out of the joint a month ago."

So if he'd gotten out of the joint a month and a day ago, you'd be cool with that?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

So if he'd gotten out of the joint a month and a day ago, you'd be cool with that?

You know what I mean.

[squirrely girl]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Other red flags:

*His car has those yellow license plates that Ohio gives to people with multiple DUIs.

priceless! i love those plates


edited to add - my own personal red flag would involve inviting me up to see the view from your condo having just met you while on vacation. yay TED!

[greeklawgirl]

Originally Posted by squirrely girl

edited to add - my own personal red flag would involve inviting me up to see the view from your condo having just met you while on vacation. yay TED!

What, you mean you don't want to drink the absinthe? Or go to breakfast the next morning? Or lunch? Or ditch your friends and go to dinner?

[mu_agd]

Originally Posted by greeklawgirl

What, you mean you don't want to drink the absinthe? Or go to breakfast the next morning? Or lunch? Or ditch your friends and go to dinner?

Received any texts lately?

[greeklawgirl]

Originally Posted by mu_agd

Received any texts lately?

Alas, no.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I thought you were pretty cool at 1st but to explode and call me a jackass because I have certain preferences is wrong, but you're entitled to your own opinion. You settled....o.k. that's what you did. Would I settle? No. Would I want someone to settle for me? No. Because I don't agree with you, I don't call you out of your name. Pretty intelligent AKA Monet. I still like you though .

Whoa!!!

ZTAngel, the moderator, has called folks out about personal attacks.

Hey, if you choose to believe I settled, whatever, you don't pay my mortgage... Personally, I said I settled down... Compared to my fun times I had before I met my husband, i.e. tours on the red carpet in Hollywood premiers, someday, all my partying had to stop... Either I be with a philadering playboy or a goof-ball nerd... I chose the nerd because he was a good man and would love me. Besides, I love him, too...

The point is, what are we suppose to accomplish in this life? And life is about choices. Red, white, yellow, pink, and green flags before you date don't mean chit if you don't ante up straight with yourself...

Took me a long time to realize that... Just wanted you to not waste your life away like I did mine...

And I am not doing it because I want to be cool . I do it because I actually do care, with compassion and faith, for people...

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Too much interest too soon is the number one sign of an abuser. If I only knew then what I know now. Forcing your number out of you and then calling the next day knowing things about you that are rather obscure is NOT a sign that it is meant to be/he is psychic/God sent him to help you/any other good thing.

If it's all on the interweb, it's easy for anyone to find out "obscure details."

BTW, how does one FORCE a number out of you? How about the word NO?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Whoa!!!

ZTAngel, the moderator, has called folks out about personal attacks.

Hey, if you choose to believe I settled, whatever, you don't pay my mortgage... Personally, I said I settled down... Compared to my fun times I had before I met my husband, i.e. tours on the red carpet in Hollywood premiers, someday, all my partying had to stop... Either I be with a philadering playboy or a goof-ball nerd... I chose the nerd because he was a good man and would love me. Besides, I love him, too...

The point is, what are we suppose to accomplish in this life? And life is about choices. Red, white, yellow, pink, and green flags before you date don't mean chit if you don't ante up straight with yourself...

Took me a long time to realize that... Just wanted you to not waste your life away like I did mine...

And I am not doing it because I want to be cool . I do it because I actually do care, with compassion and faith, for people...

Well...thanks. I wasn't getting personal though.

[Scandia]

The case I am referring to happened back in 1993. WAY before the internet was easily available. WAY before search engines could make things appear easily. That, and I was very young and naive- and the person knew most of my phone number already for some reason.

Yeppers, stalking.