What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

ZTAngel · #1 11-30-2006, 10:23 PM

Personal attacks will not be tolerated. I don't care if her info is posted on the internet or elsewhere on GC. It won't be posted in my forum.

Dionysus · #2 11-30-2006, 11:19 PM

RE: Family, we just have to agree to disagree. If someone has a lot of family drama, there is something they can do about it, cut off or at least reduce contact with them. While I have not come from a super dysfunctional family myself, I wouldn't say that I came from a "Leave it to Beaver" one either, I don't think I'm really judging anyone. I had to reduce contact from a certain grandparent, because this person's drama was definately impacting my life. This is the main reason why someone's family background is so important to me, I don't want to go through drama again. If someone is closer enough to their drama-filled family, I don't see how it can NOT spill over into your relationship and your life.

Yellow Flags
*Has many ex-friends, and can walk away from any friendship without being sad.
*Strongly democrat

Red Flags
*Strongly republican, fortunately those kind of guys usually aren't attracted to me, but you'll never know...
*Appears to be boring AND doesn't want to do crap about it. Never left the state and has no desire to. Only likes one genre of music. Has no style. Whatever people, piercings and tattoos can be sexy, if they don't go overboard. I like goatees, I don't know a boring guy that has one. Does not want to go east of highway 270. Prefers a night in to a night out. Chooses to eat at Applebee's for our first date, LOL.
*Has no sense of humor. Easily offended. I'll ask them what's their favorite movies and comedians to find out their sense of humor. Everyone here on GC knows what my sense of humor is like, if someone doesn't like it, they can bounce!
*IS A WALKING STEREOTYPE OF THEIR RACE! No nerdy Asian guys. No angry black men. No whitebread white men.

#3 11-30-2006, 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTAngel

Personal attacks will not be tolerated. I don't care if her info is posted on the internet or elsewhere on GC. It won't be posted in my forum.

Then they shall be posted elsewhere!

KSUViolet06 · #4 12-01-2006, 12:53 AM

Red flags:

*Gets my number at the end of the date and has called me 5 times before I get home.

Scandia · #5 12-01-2006, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Red flags:

*Gets my number at the end of the date and has called me 5 times before I get home.

Too much interest too soon is the number one sign of an abuser. If I only knew then what I know now. Forcing your number out of you and then calling the next day knowing things about you that are rather obscure is NOT a sign that it is meant to be/he is psychic/God sent him to help you/any other good thing.

33girl · #6 12-01-2006, 11:04 AM

How did this thread get from serious things like "I won't date him if he drinks and drives" or "I won't date her if she's massively in debt and keeps spending" to "OMG tattoos are super nasty!"

We have threads where we wallow in the shallow* and say what we do or don't like appearance wise, this isn't one of them. This (I thought) was a little more serious discussion about things that can be potentially dangerous or terrible when dating and I'm really disappointed that it had to turn into people being closed minded about appearance. What's next? "Redheads raise a red flag for me because of that Sidney chick from Melrose Place and they are all man stealing psychos!"

*those don't rhyme. Odd, huh?

macallan25 · #7 12-01-2006, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

How did this thread get from serious things like "I won't date him if he drinks and drives" or "I won't date her if she's massively in debt and keeps spending" to "OMG tattoos are super nasty!"

We have threads where we wallow in the shallow* and say what we do or don't like appearance wise, this isn't one of them. This (I thought) was a little more serious discussion about things that can be potentially dangerous or terrible when dating and I'm really disappointed that it had to turn into people being closed minded about appearance. What's next? "Redheads raise a red flag for me because of that Sidney chick from Melrose Place and they are all man stealing psychos!"

*those don't rhyme. Odd, huh?

The thread is "what would raise a red or yellow flay on a first date FOR YOU." Perhaps you didn't catch that. Some people are very conservative....and would like to date conservative people. Going on a date with a girl that was tatted up would probobly raise some concerns.

KSUViolet06 · #8 12-01-2006, 01:04 PM

Yellow flags:

*Talks alot about work. I hate people who are too wrapped in their jobs to have normal conversations.

Other red flags:

*Any mention of the words "just got out of the joint a month ago."

*His car has those yellow license plates that Ohio gives to people with multiple DUIs.

*His stories don't match up. Like he says "I don't have any kids", and then an hour later when you're walking by the toy boutique on the way to your car, he looks in the window and says "Oh my daughter has those skates." (true story) WTF? I thought you said you didn't have kids??

Tippiechick · #9 12-01-2006, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Scandia

Too much interest too soon is the number one sign of an abuser. If I only knew then what I know now. Forcing your number out of you and then calling the next day knowing things about you that are rather obscure is NOT a sign that it is meant to be/he is psychic/God sent him to help you/any other good thing.

If it's all on the interweb, it's easy for anyone to find out "obscure details."

BTW, how does one FORCE a number out of you? How about the word NO?

jubilance1922 · #10 12-02-2006, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Tippiechick

If it's all on the interweb, it's easy for anyone to find out "obscure details."

BTW, how does one FORCE a number out of you? How about the word NO?

I've heard of a couple cases where women were beaten up and/or shot and killed because they refused to give a guy their phone number.

To me, its much easier to give the number and never answer the phone than it is to jeopardize my life because some guy can't stand to be rejected.

KSUViolet06 · #11 12-02-2006, 03:57 PM

More flags:

*He seems to have something negative to say about every subject you bring up.

*He has really bad body odor or breath. I'm sorry. I can't handle that.

*He answers his phone in the middle of the date.

*He mentions that he lives with his mom.

*He mentions that you should plan your next date at a place that's not within 100 yards of a school, or else he'll get arrested (because he's a SEX OFFENDER)