What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Other red flags:

*Any mention of the words "just got out of the joint a month ago."

I jokingly asked a guy, on a first date, "So, any felonies?" and he replied (very seriously) "Only the one..."

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I jokingly asked a guy, on a first date, "So, any felonies?" and he replied (very seriously) "Only the one..."

LOL. Did you ask him what he did?

[cheerfulgreek]

Red Flags: Compares his past relationships to his mother
Talks about Xs a lot
A current or former playboy
Has an earing in one or both ears
Has any kind of felonies
He doesn't like greeks
Doesn't like animals
Uses vulgar language in regular conversation
Watches soaps
A workaholic. Any kind of holic.

Yellow Flags: I don't have any. I walk away from those too .

[ASUADPi]

Red flags:

- says on the first date that he doesn't like wearing condoms (and that he can pull out )

- after the condom line says that he and his ex fiancee (who cheated on him multiple times) had unprotected sex quite often


(can you tell this happened to me on a first date)

[SOPi_Jawbreaker]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Red flags:

- says on the first date that he doesn't like wearing condoms (and that he can pull out )

- after the condom line says that he and his ex fiancee (who cheated on him multiple times) had unprotected sex quite often


(can you tell this happened to me on a first date)

Well, I was going to put something generic like "is rude to waiters", but since you actually went and gave an actual example that happened to you on a first date, I'll share mine.

"So the other night, I had a party and my buddy asked if he and his girl could use my bed to have sex. I said it was alright and he wanted to pay me, but I told him it wasn't necessary, cuz I have no idea how much one would charge for something like that. What do you think the going rate would be for something like that?"

And then later on during dinner:
"So this one time, my ex-girlfriend and some friends had a Passion Party, and I got a cockring. Well, later on that evening, after she and I had finished having sex, I couldn't get the cockring off. I ended up having to run down the hallway naked to get my Swiss army knife to jimmy it open."

Later on, he also mentioned how he wasn't quite over his ex. And of all the girls he had dated, she was the only one he respected. He said he thought all the other girls he dated "never lived up to their full potential".

Needless to say, I never went out with this guy again. I went out with him on that first date, because he had looked like a normal guy. Guess looks can be deceiving.

There was another guy that I went out with that said "You know that stereotype about black guys? Yeah, it's not really true."

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by SOPi_Jawbreaker

There was another guy that I went out with that said "You know that stereotype about black guys? Yeah, it's not really true."

A guy my friend once tried to set me up with said "you should know that I have a really small penis." This was about 3 minutes into the date.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Red Flags: Compares his past relationships to his mother
Talks about Xs a lot
A current or former playboy
Has an earing in one or both ears
Has any kind of felonies
He doesn't like greeks
Doesn't like animals
Uses vulgar language in regular conversation
Watches soaps
A workaholic. Any kind of holic.

Yellow Flags: I don't have any. I walk away from those too .

This is insane, you'll ditch a guy because he watches soaps?

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

This is insane, you'll ditch a guy because he watches soaps?

Um, I would, LOL. WTF.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

This is insane, you'll ditch a guy because he watches soaps?

I already ditched a guy for watching soaps. He would say he was coming over to our house to visit me, but he would really want to come over to watch his soap on HDTV. What a dork!

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Red Flags: Compares his past relationships to his mother
Talks about Xs a lot
A current or former playboy
Has an earing in one or both ears
Has any kind of felonies
He doesn't like greeks
Doesn't like animals
Uses vulgar language in regular conversation
Watches soaps
A workaholic. Any kind of holic.

Yellow Flags: I don't have any. I walk away from those too .

Mine would be more the earring in one or both ears. A guy that I really, really liked (who I worked with last year) had an earring in one ear (can't remember if it was the left or the right). It worked for him. (Too bad he had a girlfriend most of the year).

As for the soaps, hey I love watching soaps because they are so damn corny. If a guy can sit down and make fun of them with me, more power to him. My grandpa still watches Y & R (even though it was my grandma's soap and she died a year ago).

[BlessedOne04]

Along with many others that have been stated here are some other jewels!!! Something I like to call my top 5 for this year!

1. I usually don't find big girls attractive but for you I'll make an exception! (WTH!?!) RED Flag

2. If he voluntarily tells me what he is like sexually. (Hayle No!) RED flag

3. If he goes on and on about the accomplishments of his father/mother and how he followed their exact footsteps. (Ummm are you an individual?) Yellow!

4. If he talks about the high expectations everyone has of him and he is REQUIRED to bring home a pretty girl and if his mom doesn't accept you then he cannot even consider being with you. (A little much I think!) RED Flag

5. He talks about his kids (yes plural) and how he has had a kid with every relationship but after the baby the mother starts "trippin". RED flag

[PeppyGPhiB]

I'm happily attached now, but when dating there are a few things that will make you lose points or strike out with me...

- You cancel/postpone our first date, unless you're obviously ill.
- You show up in a logo tee, especially one with "Microsoft" on in (this happens way too much in Seattle).
- You answer your cell phone on a date. "It might have been an emergency..."? Yeah, right! It's never an emergency. Let them leave a message, then check your messages when you get up later to go to the restroom.
- It becomes obvious that you've been misleading me on your background and beliefs.
- It sounds like you have a lot of drama and chaos in your life. I don't want to be involved.
- You've declared bankruptcy or talk about money woes.
- You disrespect my religious beliefs, or religions in general.
- You refer to your exes as "psycho" and blame them for your breakups. Just because you don't like her anymore doesn't mean you get to call her bipolar or psycho. Anyways, I've discovered her anger is maybe because of something YOU did.
- You don't pay on our first date. OK, so this is a social more, but it's also because most guys I date earn more $ than me.
- You're very recently divorced or coming out of a serious relationship, or you're "separated."
- You're a smoker.
- You're so conservative and opinionated that we can't have a conversation without you getting irrationally upset with me, flying into a wild tangent, and making ridiculous statements about me when you don't even know me.
- You don't want to get married and have kids someday.
- You used to live with your girlfriend. This may not strike you out, but it will probably make you a little "tainted" in my book.

[APhi Sailorgirl]

What about been married before and no kids or married and kids? Something a couple sisters and I discussed recently in regard to dating guys who may have been married before and being "the second wife."

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I'm happily attached now, but when dating there are a few things that will make you lose points or strike out with me...

- You cancel/postpone our first date, unless you're obviously ill.
- You show up in a logo tee, especially one with "Microsoft" on in (this happens way too much in Seattle).
- You answer your cell phone on a date. "It might have been an emergency..."? Yeah, right! It's never an emergency. Let them leave a message, then check your messages when you get up later to go to the restroom.
- It becomes obvious that you've been misleading me on your background and beliefs.
- It sounds like you have a lot of drama and chaos in your life. I don't want to be involved.
- You've declared bankruptcy or talk about money woes.
- You disrespect my religious beliefs, or religions in general.
- You refer to your exes as "psycho" and blame them for your breakups. Just because you don't like her anymore doesn't mean you get to call her bipolar or psycho. Anyways, I've discovered her anger is maybe because of something YOU did.
- You don't pay on our first date. OK, so this is a social more, but it's also because most guys I date earn more $ than me.
- You're very recently divorced or coming out of a serious relationship, or you're "separated."
- You're a smoker.
- You're so conservative and opinionated that we can't have a conversation without you getting irrationally upset with me, flying into a wild tangent, and making ridiculous statements about me when you don't even know me.
- You don't want to get married and have kids someday.
- You used to live with your girlfriend. This may not strike you out, but it will probably make you a little "tainted" in my book.

LOL

Ok, how many of us have actually FOUND guys/girls who have NONE of the yellow and red flags we mentioned? I have not.

[Scandia]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I'm happily attached now, but when dating there are a few things that will make you lose points or strike out with me...


- You answer your cell phone on a date. "It might have been an emergency..."? Yeah, right! It's never an emergency. Let them leave a message, then check your messages when you get up later to go to the restroom.

On our fourth date, which had not been going well, the previous guy I dated answered his cell phone while we waited to be seated at the comedy club. He talked to the person for a few minutes. I asked who it was- could have been a relative or a business call. Turns out it was a girl he had met and had gone on one date with him a couple weeks earlier. I asked if he was interested in her- he said no, that he must have been drunk when he asked her out, and that they did not have fun at all. Me having had trouble learning manners when I was a child, and since he did not make another date with her and it could have been an emergency on her part, I let it rest. But after the show, in the car, he got really huffy about my having a problem with his dating other girls and made it very clear he NEVER said we were dating exclusively. There was a fifth date eventually, but in it he confirmed that he was looking for a woman who was very different from who I am.

- You refer to your exes as "psycho" and blame them for your breakups. Just because you don't like her anymore doesn't mean you get to call her bipolar or psycho. Anyways, I've discovered her anger is maybe because of something YOU did.

A relative of mine did have a girlfriend who was bipolar. They broke up because one day she beat him up due to there not being any more cereal in the pantry- even though the grocery store was in the ground floor of the building and she could easily buy more.

- You're very recently divorced or coming out of a serious relationship, or you're "separated.


- You used to live with your girlfriend. This may not strike you out, but it will probably make you a little "tainted" in my book.

If you have this kind of experience, why would you want a maiden like me?