What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

If it's all on the interweb, it's easy for anyone to find out "obscure details."

BTW, how does one FORCE a number out of you? How about the word NO?

I've heard of a couple cases where women were beaten up and/or shot and killed because they refused to give a guy their phone number.

To me, its much easier to give the number and never answer the phone than it is to jeopardize my life because some guy can't stand to be rejected.

[KSUViolet06]

More flags:

*He seems to have something negative to say about every subject you bring up.

*He has really bad body odor or breath. I'm sorry. I can't handle that.

*He answers his phone in the middle of the date.

*He mentions that he lives with his mom.

*He mentions that you should plan your next date at a place that's not within 100 yards of a school, or else he'll get arrested (because he's a SEX OFFENDER)

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Other red flags:

*Any mention of the words "just got out of the joint a month ago."

I jokingly asked a guy, on a first date, "So, any felonies?" and he replied (very seriously) "Only the one..."

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I jokingly asked a guy, on a first date, "So, any felonies?" and he replied (very seriously) "Only the one..."

LOL. Did you ask him what he did?

[cheerfulgreek]

Red Flags: Compares his past relationships to his mother
Talks about Xs a lot
A current or former playboy
Has an earing in one or both ears
Has any kind of felonies
He doesn't like greeks
Doesn't like animals
Uses vulgar language in regular conversation
Watches soaps
A workaholic. Any kind of holic.

Yellow Flags: I don't have any. I walk away from those too .

[ASUADPi]

Red flags:

- says on the first date that he doesn't like wearing condoms (and that he can pull out )

- after the condom line says that he and his ex fiancee (who cheated on him multiple times) had unprotected sex quite often


(can you tell this happened to me on a first date)

[SOPi_Jawbreaker]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Red flags:

- says on the first date that he doesn't like wearing condoms (and that he can pull out )

- after the condom line says that he and his ex fiancee (who cheated on him multiple times) had unprotected sex quite often


(can you tell this happened to me on a first date)

Well, I was going to put something generic like "is rude to waiters", but since you actually went and gave an actual example that happened to you on a first date, I'll share mine.

"So the other night, I had a party and my buddy asked if he and his girl could use my bed to have sex. I said it was alright and he wanted to pay me, but I told him it wasn't necessary, cuz I have no idea how much one would charge for something like that. What do you think the going rate would be for something like that?"

And then later on during dinner:
"So this one time, my ex-girlfriend and some friends had a Passion Party, and I got a cockring. Well, later on that evening, after she and I had finished having sex, I couldn't get the cockring off. I ended up having to run down the hallway naked to get my Swiss army knife to jimmy it open."

Later on, he also mentioned how he wasn't quite over his ex. And of all the girls he had dated, she was the only one he respected. He said he thought all the other girls he dated "never lived up to their full potential".

Needless to say, I never went out with this guy again. I went out with him on that first date, because he had looked like a normal guy. Guess looks can be deceiving.

There was another guy that I went out with that said "You know that stereotype about black guys? Yeah, it's not really true."

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by centaur532

I gotta agree. Tell her. Then when she starts stalking you, you can avoid her with the delete and ignore buttons.

I just saw this. I can't argue with either one of you. LOL. I guess I should have told her that I wasn't interested. I just didn't like to step on toes or hurt anyones feelings at the time. I remember my fraternity threw our annual Ball and a young lady in XYZ sorority asked me would I take her as my date. She told me that she had already been asked from other guys, but she wanted me to take her. I felt that if I said no, then she wouldn't have a date, so I said..."Uhh...o.k." She lived in her sorority's house, I had a car, so I picked her up, and she looked stunning. When I got there, she was the only one there. I said "Where is everyone?" She told me at the Ball. There was no way I could have told her no, especially knowing that all her girls had dates. She was very attractive, but she had a small tatoo of her sorority on her lower back. I could barely see it, but it was there. I never told her about that tatoo .
That was then though. I'm not like that now. If I have to step on toes then I will.

[amycat412]

lol he is`ex's best friend. yeah should stay away from that.

[RU OX Alum]

yeah ex's-friends are bad ideas

also.....no pets that is a yellow flag, not red, but I am allergic to them, well most of them.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Red Flags: Compares his past relationships to his mother
Talks about Xs a lot
A current or former playboy
Has an earing in one or both ears
Has any kind of felonies
He doesn't like greeks
Doesn't like animals
Uses vulgar language in regular conversation
Watches soaps
A workaholic. Any kind of holic.

Yellow Flags: I don't have any. I walk away from those too .

This is insane, you'll ditch a guy because he watches soaps?

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by SOPi_Jawbreaker

There was another guy that I went out with that said "You know that stereotype about black guys? Yeah, it's not really true."

A guy my friend once tried to set me up with said "you should know that I have a really small penis." This was about 3 minutes into the date.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

This is insane, you'll ditch a guy because he watches soaps?

Um, I would, LOL. WTF.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Red Flags: Compares his past relationships to his mother
Talks about Xs a lot
A current or former playboy
Has an earing in one or both ears
Has any kind of felonies
He doesn't like greeks
Doesn't like animals
Uses vulgar language in regular conversation
Watches soaps
A workaholic. Any kind of holic.

Yellow Flags: I don't have any. I walk away from those too .

Mine would be more the earring in one or both ears. A guy that I really, really liked (who I worked with last year) had an earring in one ear (can't remember if it was the left or the right). It worked for him. (Too bad he had a girlfriend most of the year).

As for the soaps, hey I love watching soaps because they are so damn corny. If a guy can sit down and make fun of them with me, more power to him. My grandpa still watches Y & R (even though it was my grandma's soap and she died a year ago).

[BlessedOne04]

Along with many others that have been stated here are some other jewels!!! Something I like to call my top 5 for this year!

1. I usually don't find big girls attractive but for you I'll make an exception! (WTH!?!) RED Flag

2. If he voluntarily tells me what he is like sexually. (Hayle No!) RED flag

3. If he goes on and on about the accomplishments of his father/mother and how he followed their exact footsteps. (Ummm are you an individual?) Yellow!

4. If he talks about the high expectations everyone has of him and he is REQUIRED to bring home a pretty girl and if his mom doesn't accept you then he cannot even consider being with you. (A little much I think!) RED Flag

5. He talks about his kids (yes plural) and how he has had a kid with every relationship but after the baby the mother starts "trippin". RED flag