Going to a sorority with a boyfriend...

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by James

She could just cheat also . . . and if it doesn't work out, stay with her BF. I have seen that often enough.

I know. It will probably be with some guy in a frat too. You right, but that is so jacked up. I don't understand why babes want to break it off with their dudes when they join a sorority, especially if he's not greek.

[Cardinal026]

Flower33: Like AlphaFrog said, I don't believe that the outcome of your relationship would be a sole result of going through the new membership process - if you both want the relationship to work, it can.

I had been dating my boyfriend for 3 years also at the time I became a new member. He (not greek) was hesitant at first of mixers that I went to and whatnot, but as soon as he realized that I always told him what was going on, he felt pretty included. Plus I got to bring him to semi-formals, intramural games, etc. And we're still together - this Friday will be 6 years.

If you're talking about a break already though, do you really want this to work? It seems like you're looking for an out, especially if trust isn't a problem...

[sisterzip]

I would not worry about it to mutch. One of our new members is married. However it sounds like there trust isues in your relationship already. I agree that It sounds like you are looking for problems. Even if you are joining a sorority that keeps thier practices 'secret' you would no be keeping anything that serious from him

[WVU alpha phi]

Originally Posted by sisterzip

I would not worry about it to mutch. One of our new members is married. However it sounds like there trust isues in your relationship already. I agree that It sounds like you are looking for problems. Even if you are joining a sorority that keeps thier practices 'secret' you would no be keeping anything that serious from him

Married? Is she 18 or 19?
We had a girl come through rush this year that told us she had moved here with her 2 children and her boyfriend.. I don't think any sorority kept her after the second day. Married is a little different, but still.. is this common?

[epchick]

Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi

Married? Is she 18 or 19?
We had a girl come through rush this year that told us she had moved here with her 2 children and her boyfriend.. I don't think any sorority kept her after the second day. Married is a little different, but still.. is this common?

I knew a girl that went through rush with me last year who was fresh outta high school, and was married. (I think she had been married for a while too). She wasn't even from my city, she had moved here w/ her husband. I don't know if they are still together though, from what I heard she moved to a different university....and nothing was ever mentioned again about a husband

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by epchick

I knew a girl that went through rush with me last year who was fresh outta high school, and was married. (I think she had been married for a while too). She wasn't even from my city, she had moved here w/ her husband. I don't know if they are still together though, from what I heard she moved to a different university....and nothing was ever mentioned again about a husband

She probably dropped him like a bad habit. LOL

[PinkandGreenJ]

You can make it through. I am not saying it is easy. As cliche as it sounds, if you are meant to be, you will make it through. There were very hard times between me and my husband when I joined a sorority, partially because his parents were the stereotypical anti-greek new england intellectual types and pushed this on him. When he saw that his sports team at college was just like a fraternity, it got easier.

Now, 7 years out of college....we are happily married, even after going to grad school in different timezones....

It can be done. Whether you both want to is up to you.