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Originally Posted by christiangirl
Most people see "friends with benefits" being synonymous with (excuse my slang) "f--k buddy." In virginese, the "benefits" in question can include holding hands, cuddling, kissing, making out, etc. OR even just being emotionally tied--literally, things you wouldn't do with just a friend. The creativity is finding ways to be physically and emotionally close without sex being involved--and by being creative we mean the virginese creative not the do every nasty, freaky thing on the planet but claim we never actually had intercourse creative.  |
See, I get what you're saying (sort of) about doing things that you wouldn't do with "just" a friend. But you're missing the point of "friends with benefits" -- why would friends with benefits want to find ways to be emotionally close without sex? The whole point of friends with benefits is to have sex without being emotionally close -- you have fun and do your thing without any emotional attachment or involvement. It's not even about being physically close to someone -- it's about, well, getting off and then going away. "Closeness" isn't the point. Holding hands, cuddling, and being "emotionally tied" are things you do with your boyfriend -- that's much more "relationshipy" than friends with benefits.
I have a hard time imagining a guy who would consider your version an actual "benefit," unless he's really, really into you or a huge pussy who can't get any anywhere else and is hoping it will happen someday. I mean, can you imagine a guy going home after a night of holding hands and cuddling and being all, YEAH that was awesome I totally scored!!? I'd call him your "pre boyfriend" or "pal" but not a friend with benefits.
I really, seriously intend no disrespect at all -- I just don't get it.
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