Is sex really that big of a deal?

AlphaFrog · #1 03-16-2007, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Diamond Darlin’

Okay, so, I would just like to thank you. You've given me hope. LOL, I'm a Fr. and I have never had sex. I datd the same guy for four year, from 8th to 11th grade, we broke up when he joined his frat, and i was still in HS, and now 2 years later we are,... um... Friends, but more then that, I guess u could say friends with benifits cus neither of us is ready to put the work into a full time relationship, especially since we do not go to the same college, and it is hard for us to get to see one another. It has been a real strugle in the past that i wouldent have sex with him. I think it gets better and better, but I was begenning to feel like i was the only person in college who hasent had sex. It was driving me insane. Now i know there are others out there to look up to. THANKS!!!!

Hon, if you're a virgin, you do NOT have friends with benefits. Unless they're only getting the part-timer's compensation.

Diamond Darlin’ · #2 03-16-2007, 12:01 PM

LOL yeah, thats the interesting part, Have you ever had a physical relationshiip without actually having sex, well thats the same things we do. It's just like a relationship without sex, except you are allowed to see other people, you dont have to chack in, and we dont get too centimental, or atleast not most of the time

tld221 · #3 03-16-2007, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Diamond Darlin’

LOL yeah, thats the interesting part, Have you ever had a physical relationshiip without actually having sex, well thats the same things we do. It's just like a relationship without sex, except you are allowed to see other people, you dont have to chack in, and we dont get too centimental, or atleast not most of the time

so yall are just "talking?"

thats what it sounds like to me.

Diamond Darlin’ · #4 03-16-2007, 12:53 PM

No

we do more then talk, and we've done more then make out, but i'm also not into publishing everything we've done online so thats all the farther i'll go with it. It is possible to have a physical relationship without having sex. There are things other then sex. It just makes you more creative.

christiangirl · #5 03-16-2007, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Diamond Darlin’

No

we do more then talk, and we've done more then make out, but i'm also not into publishing everything we've done online so thats all the farther i'll go with it. It is possible to have a physical relationship without having sex. There are things other then sex. It just makes you more creative.

Hehe, girl they don't understand. We can have friends with benefits, too...they've just forgotten how to get creative with it

. But yes, there are more of us, we're just a rare commodity.

I've tried to meet guys at church, the only problem is that I go to a small church, we've tended to pass around guys since there aren't many options. Once I move, that'll open up some doors, but it's just so discouraging that a choice that I've made is limiting my life. I have no intention of changing it, but outside of an arranged marriage, I'm losing hope over here. I know that I have my whole life ahead of me and guys my age are generally half-baked anyway, but come on. I never really believed I'd marry a guy who waited too, but at this point, the only guys who honestly respected my decision have been WAY older than me and I wasn't comfortable being with them anyway...(what 27 year old wants to get with an 18 year old? Yeah, he didn't want anything except my company...of course he didn't....)

AlphaFrog · #6 03-16-2007, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

I've tried to meet guys at church, the only problem is that I go to a small church, we've tended to pass around guys since there aren't many options.

Is it just me, or does anyone else find something really wrong with this?

tld221 · #7 03-16-2007, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Is it just me, or does anyone else find something really wrong with this?

well yeah... but passing around men isnt as unusual as you think. esp. if ol christiangirl's town is small enough that the straightmale/straightfemale ratio is out of whack. does this make it right? nope.

i guess if sharing men because there arent enough to go around is wrong, then the women at CG's church doesnt wanna be right.

but that does lead me to ask: how is CG passing around guys if a. she's a virgin, and b. supposed to be all christian-like?

AKA_Monet · #8 03-17-2007, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

Hehe, girl they don't understand. We can have friends with benefits, too...they've just forgotten how to get creative with it

. But yes, there are more of us, we're just a rare commodity.

I've tried to meet guys at church, the only problem is that I go to a small church, we've tended to pass around guys since there aren't many options. Once I move, that'll open up some doors, but it's just so discouraging that a choice that I've made is limiting my life. I have no intention of changing it, but outside of an arranged marriage, I'm losing hope over here. I know that I have my whole life ahead of me and guys my age are generally half-baked anyway, but come on. I never really believed I'd marry a guy who waited too, but at this point, the only guys who honestly respected my decision have been WAY older than me and I wasn't comfortable being with them anyway...(what 27 year old wants to get with an 18 year old? Yeah, he didn't want anything except my company...of course he didn't....)

There is no such thing as "friends with benefits". Friends don't get passes like that. If anything, they are really player cards.

Here is the deal and this is from a Public Health and CDC Perspective.

You need to protect yourself with condom(s) and birth control if you are sleeping with a man for the first time even if it is your husband.

Or you had better have a sense of smell stronger than a female dog...

The fact is when the boys figure out you ain't gonna put out, they go to others to fulfull their sexual appetite.

Keeping your virginity intact is cool and all. But you also need to have a fine idea of what it looks like when a man sleeps around.

It use to hurt to see that happen, but now it can kill you...

This is not even close to a joke.

No since of imagining your first night when it could be your last...

And the same goes for women who sleep around without protection.

Also, for women we sacrifice our empowered spirit and potential (E.S.P.) when we permit the assault and vandalism of our vaginas.

There are reasons for me saying this.

tld221 · #9 03-17-2007, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Also, for women we sacrifice our empowered spirit and potential (E.S.P.) when we permit the assault and vandalism of our vaginas.

we gonna have to call you Reverend AKA_Monet!

Jimmy Choo · #10 03-16-2007, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Hon, if you're a virgin, you do NOT have friends with benefits. Unless they're only getting the part-timer's compensation.

This is one of the best things I have ever read on GC.

Dionysus · #11 03-16-2007, 11:10 PM

Maybe I'm not as horny as I thought, because I don't see it being that big of a deal either.