Is sex really that big of a deal?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I'm studying Industrial Design. I want to design cars for a living.

Roseville is really nice. I'm not sure where decent apartments would be, but the area is nice. My God parents live out there, and they love it. I only know places like Pavilion Place, Rosedale Mall, Har Mar. Places like that.

Hey Minnesota! How are you?

Car designer? Wow! Sounds really cool.

LOL. You get around. You go to Nina's and you've got God parents in the Roseville area. How funny. Yeah, I know where Rosedale, Har Mar and the Pavillion Place are. LOL. This is so bizarre! I've been looking, in different places and I like Roseville the best. Ya know, I never thought I would end up chatting with someone from the same city, that goes to the same coffee shop as me. Once you're here when did you plan on stopping in Nina's? Maybe we can meet there.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Hey Minnesota! How are you?

Car designer? Wow! Sounds really cool.

LOL. You get around. You go to Nina's and you've got God parents in the Roseville area. How funny. Yeah, I know where Rosedale, Har Mar and the Pavillion Place are. LOL. This is so bizarre! I've been looking, in different places and I like Roseville the best. Ya know, I never thought I would end up chatting with someone from the same city, that goes to the same coffee shop as me. Once your'e here when did you plan on stopping in Nina's? Maybe we can meet there.

Wazzzzzzzzzzzzzuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuppppppppp!

No, I really never hung out when I lived in Minnesota. When I was in highschool, and when I would come home from undergrad, I would just stay at home and relax with my family, so I don't know of a lot of places to go other than the hobby store. I love the hobby store. I can tell you where most of the hobby stores are.

You were serious about meeting at Nina's?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Wazzzzzzzzzzzzzuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuppppppppp!

No, I really never hung out when I lived in Minnesota. When I was in highschool, and when I would come home from undergrad, I would just stay at home and relax with my family, so I don't know of a lot of places to go other than the hobby store. I love the hobby store. I can tell you where most of the hobby stores are.

You were serious about meeting at Nina's?

Hobby stores . Ummm...I'm not really interested in shopping at a hobby store.

I thought you were coming to Minnesota for the holiday? I mean, I just thought it would be nice to meet someone from the same city. That's all. You have your moments on GC but for the most part you're o.k.

Seriously, if you don't want to we don't have to. I just thought we were talking about meeting each other there since we both go there a lot.

O.K. chow 4 now.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Hobby stores . Ummm...I'm not really interested in shopping at a hobby store.

I thought you were coming to Minnesota for the holiday? I mean, I just thought it would be nice to meet someone from the same city. That's all. You have your moments on GC but for the most part you're o.k.

Seriously, if you don't want to we don't have to. I just thought we were talking about meeting each other there since we both go there a lot.

O.K. chow 4 now.

Well, I guess. (blank stare)

[KSig RC]

What on the Earth happened in this thread?

Also, any time this exact conversation comes up, there's always one interesting disconnect: the virgin is willing to recognize how rare their own virginity is (or how difficult it may be), but then wonders why s/he has trouble finding a mate to accept/understand . . .

It's going to be hard - most people like sex, that's kind of the point - so yeah, you're going to have to look harder or lower your standards. Remember, guys are kind of retarded, so I'm sure you can find a dorky engineer to pay for everything and let you stomp all over him until he becomes financially secure enough to afford a divorce - not every guy has the Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality, but most do, so yeah. You're starting with two strikes.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

not every guy has the Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality

+2 points for use of phrase "Cap'n Save-a-hoe"

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality

Eventhough that is not a new word...did you just see I Think I Love My Wife because Chris Rock was called Captain-Save-a-Hoe.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

What on the Earth happened in this thread?

Also, any time this exact conversation comes up, there's always one interesting disconnect: the virgin is willing to recognize how rare their own virginity is (or how difficult it may be), but then wonders why s/he has trouble finding a mate to accept/understand . . .

It's going to be hard - most people like sex, that's kind of the point - so yeah, you're going to have to look harder or lower your standards. Remember, guys are kind of retarded, so I'm sure you can find a dorky engineer to pay for everything and let you stomp all over him until he becomes financially secure enough to afford a divorce - not every guy has the Cap'n Save-a-hoe mentality, but most do, so yeah. You're starting with two strikes.

Okay, first thing's first.....

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA at Captain Save a Hoe


Okay, I'm gonna be real, because I think I just let myself admit why this upsets me, so if I start to offend people or sound judgemental, let me know.

I look around me at the selection of women that my campus offers. Quality women, for the most part very nice. But looking at the ones who are in committed relationships or at least date a lot of handsome, well-mannered men, I can't help but compare to see what I'm doing wrong. There are sistahs out there who (and if this sounds judgmental I apologize, it's just observations) who look and act a hot mess on a consistent basis. Some look AND SMELL as though they aren't taking care of themselves. Some are mean and catty. Some spend more time in the boy dorms than their own and put their business in the street all the time. Many are extremely overweight AND IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING UNATTRACTIVE, they simply look completely and totally unhealthy. Some are perfectly likeable, beautiful, kind, warm-hearted, hard workers, etc. Then there's me--sweet but sassy, thick but shapely, nice but honest. I respect myself and others around me, do well in school (straight As) , make my own money, about to have a degree. I'm not fashion forward, but I at least BATHE REGULARLY, you can't smell me coming. I have a sarcastic sense of humor, lots of personality. I can have sort of a temper, a little attitude when you disrespect me or one of my friends--I'm mostly nice to everyone, but I'm no pushover. So I'm not saying that I'm better than anybody, THAT'S NOT TRUE, but from what I observe, the only thing that other women do that I don't is have sex. That's all that I can think of and I honestly don't see why it should be that big of a deal that if you aren't getting it, you would walk away from a woman who has so many positives. I don't need a man to complete me, I have a lot going for me on my own, but when you've been single since H.S. with hardly any prospects, you wonder what you're doing wrong. So I put it to GC to know if sex is just that great that you would reject a woman's mind, heart, and spirit just because you can't have her you-know-what.

[1908Revelations]

I am single and I can really identify with how you descibe yourself except I graduate in December and I don't have straight A's. I understand your frustration when you see these Hot-Mess girls in committed relationships....but what I had to tell myself is 'I don't know what she did to get him and I don't know what she is doing to keep him.' Not to say that those guys don't seen positives in those girls, but trust me I understand what you mean.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Okay, first thing's first.....

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA at Captain Save a Hoe


Okay, I'm gonna be real, because I think I just let myself admit why this upsets me, so if I start to offend people or sound judgemental, let me know.

I look around me at the selection of women that my campus offers. Quality women, for the most part very nice. But looking at the ones who are in committed relationships or at least date a lot of handsome, well-mannered men, I can't help but compare to see what I'm doing wrong. There are sistahs out there who (and if this sounds judgmental I apologize, it's just observations) who look and act a hot mess on a consistent basis. Some look AND SMELL as though they aren't taking care of themselves. Some are mean and catty. Some spend more time in the boy dorms than their own and put their business in the street all the time. Many are extremely overweight AND IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING UNATTRACTIVE, they simply look completely and totally unhealthy. Some are perfectly likeable, beautiful, kind, warm-hearted, hard workers, etc. Then there's me--sweet but sassy, thick but shapely, nice but honest. I respect myself and others around me, do well in school (straight As) , make my own money, about to have a degree. I'm not fashion forward, but I at least BATHE REGULARLY, you can't smell me coming. I have a sarcastic sense of humor, lots of personality. I can have sort of a temper, a little attitude when you disrespect me or one of my friends--I'm mostly nice to everyone, but I'm no pushover. So I'm not saying that I'm better than anybody, THAT'S NOT TRUE, but from what I observe, the only thing that other women do that I don't is have sex. That's all that I can think of and I honestly don't see why it should be that big of a deal that if you aren't getting it, you would walk away from a woman who has so many positives. I don't need a man to complete me, I have a lot going for me on my own, but when you've been single since H.S. with hardly any prospects, you wonder what you're doing wrong. So I put it to GC to know if sex is just that great that you would reject a woman's mind, heart, and spirit just because you can't have her you-know-what.

Sex is good for some, but I think it must not be very good for most guys, because they never hang around, and they only come back when they want some more. I'm not just speaking on my own experience. christiangirl the only thing that worries me about you is that since you've really never been in a long term serious intimate relationship, it's like gambling now. You could win and then you could lose. It's so hard finding a great guy now. Most of them are dogs. It seems like the only great guys out there are not very attractive. Both just doesn't exist anymore. My X was really nice looking but he was the biggest jerk I've ever met. Then I had this pest kind of a guy who was really nice but he was not attractive at all. I just don't want you to get married to the wrong guy, that's all. Men cheat married or single, and if there is any decent guys out there where are they?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Well, I guess. (blank stare)

LOL. You're too funny. O.K. Let me know what you wanna do.