how do sororities decide?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by srmom

Okay, so it's totally fine for chapter members to be picky so that they can keep up the prestige of the organization, yet a pnm is raked over the coals for being picky and deciding that she does not want to attend pref at a chapter she does not feel is right for her.

I guess what's good for the goose is NOT for the gander.

BTW - I am not in any way advocating letting anyone who wants in, but I do think it's a bit hypocritical to criticize the opening poster for her pickiness and then say that chapters have to be picky to keep up their prestige...

Recruitment is an interview process.

Let’s play make-believe for a moment.

Scenario 1: You want a job really badly and you’d love to do something in your field. You look through the classifieds and find numerous jobs to apply to. Some of the better jobs you find have higher qualifications, and while you try anyway, you’re pretty sure you won’t hear back from them. You don’t. That’s ok, though, because you figure it’s better to get yourself some job than to not have one at all (and you really want to get into the work force). You receive 7 calls back and go on the interviews. You're excited and you think things went well. You then get the second round of calls, but when you do, you only get 3. Your options aren't your favorites, but you go back for the second interviews, anyway. Two of the people who interviewed you were great, while one of them was a little quiet, and you found it difficult to answer her questions. You wait for the last round of calls, but you only get one. It's from the place that you weren't too thrilled about, but you still decide to go back. You talk to a different person than the last time. Both this woman and the last one aren’t the most entertaining people to talk to, but you haven’t seen much of the office and you’re still hoping you'll get that chance. You do. The pool of interviewees has been narrowed down from 20 to 3 and you know you have to put your best foot forward. You go back for what you know is the last interview. This time, things are different. You meet and interview with yet another person who you love. She’s so nice and friendly, and she offers to show you around. You meet a few other people and the office is a lot bigger than you thought. The pay and benefits are explained to you and your eyes light up. This is definitely somewhere you could see yourself.

Scenario 2: You want a job really badly and you’d love to do something in your field. You look through the classifieds and find numerous jobs to apply to. You decide, though, that you only want to apply to specific ones. The other jobs don’t look too appealing, and you couldn’t be bothered to waste your time. While you were hoping for 5-10 calls for interviews, you only received 3. But you’re not too worried because 2 of those 3 are ones that you really want. You go on the interviews and you think they all went well. After everyone tells you that you’ll hear back from them by Friday, you only hear from 2 of them. You still have one of your favorites, though. You go on both interviews, and the one potential place of employment still leaves a little something to be desired. But when you get a call back for the final interviews, you only get one call. You’re not thrilled with who the call is from. You debate for a bit, and then figure it’s not worth the effort to go to the last interview. Even though there is a 2 month probationary period, they still can’t convince you to meet with them one last time.

In the 2nd scenario, who do you blame for not having a job? Yourself, or the companies that didn’t hire you?