What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by _Opi_

No offense, but shouldn't your main priority be on her. You're not really dating her family, you're dating her. I know you got burned in the last relationship (saw your post on the other thread) but it's not healthy to carry baggage from another relationship on to this one. Obviously, you should fit in with the family, no doubt..but at the end of the day, you're building a relationship with "her".


A red flag for me would be someone who is judgmental, especially when it comes to women. He wasn't judging me, but other females. We have common friends, and he described one of them to have gained so much "weight". Red flag was up. It was unfortunate that this was a habitual thing for him. That was such a major turn off. He was a nice guy, but no second date, of course.

Yes my main priority is her, but if her family is not like mine, it's not going to work. Yes I did get burned, but I don't carry over what happend in my past to current relationships. I look at that as a learning experience. Family is important. Here's an example. In my last realtionship, her family was totally the opposite of mine. She came from an abusive home, and her mother had been married several times. Not her fault and no offense to those who come from backgrounds like this, but anyway we went to one of her family members wedding and I was sitting in this van with her sister's husband and his friend, after a while they started smoking weed. That's not me. Nothing against weed smokers, but I don't like it. She's not a weed smoker, according to what she told me. A lot of things started to come out the longer we were together though. There were so many things I wasn't used to based on the way I was raised. I hated being around her ghetto family. This is one of the things that caused problems in our relationship. Back then I was only looking at her and not her background. Now I look at background. The way I was raised was nothing like her background. Opi I have to disagree with you when it comes to dating and what I think is important. You make some valid points though.