What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

No, that's not true. If I just wanted ass, I could have gotten plenty of that daily from several women. Not trying to be arrogant, but it's true. I've only been in two serious relationships. I've always been the commited type. I've never slept around, I could have, but I didn't. So it's definitly not about someones ass. I've never turned any women away, but I'm not going to be with someone I'm not physically attracted to. As far as repsecting myself. I do, that's why I refuse to date just anyone, and as you said I don't just look for ass and some woman shaking her ass. That's a turn off for me. As far as family respect, I never disrespect my family either. Never have and never will. As far as nerds and goofy ladies. Nothing wrong with that. I think those women are very interesting, in fact I prefer women like that, but if I'm not physically attracted to her, then we can just be friends. You have your opinion based on what I wrote, and that's cool, but I'm not changing mine.

To whom the gods wish to destroy, they must first make them angry...

Your past's familial relationship is not your responsibility to assess... Do you also see that she failed to leave her family for yours? Meaning you two together...

Judging a woman based on similar familial background is like judging a book by its cover... And I bet you thought you could change her "sorcerous ways"... Any woman, no matter what her ethnic heritage, ought to stand for something in her life. Or she will fall for anything...

It seems that you want a woman to make-up for those lost pieces that you lack... No woman can fulfill those things you desire...

You are going to fail in your quest because you seek something outside of yourself to satisfy a perceived longing. Because you were devestatingly hurt in the past, every woman you come into contact has to step up. And even if you actually do find and are successful in finding that woman, she still will not live in fulfilment of you...

That is what's sad...

And no, I am not in best end all, be all relationship. I settled. But as I told you, my husband was there for me when I was at my lowest... We work at our relationship even though both of our own folks jacked up theirs... But we knew that going in we'd have work to do on own selves and each other... Those are the sacrifices we vowed to each other.

I don't care about "expanding your horizons" by pursuing women from other ethnic groups. But dude, you have issues you have no right to include women that are totally oblivious and unfamiliar with your own heritage.

Like I have to do, "physician, heal thyself"...