What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

When I dated, my friends and I called them "strikes" (like in baseball). There would be "3 strike violations" and "1 strike violations".

The 1 strike violation would be to ask me to go somewhere on an alleged date that was unsafe, namely the beach in the middle of night. Since I lived in Southern California, there are only a few things that dates can do at the beach at night... None them altruistic and honorable... And I was not into that.

But flags are realitively easy to spot wen you know what you will tolerate for yourself. Everyone will "use" you, it is your duty whether you choose to be "misused"...

I look for yellow and red flags right off the bat. I usually will call 1st to hear how she talks. If she's ghetto, that is an automatic red flag. Before I even see her, I've determined that there will only be one date. If she talks rather articulate but uses some slang, that's cool, but it depends on the slang. When I meet up with her, I look at her finger nails. If they're long and fake, that's an immeditate red flag. No 2nd date. If she has on tight revealing clothing. Immediate red flag. If she looks great, then I go into conversation. If she can't talk about current world issues, and has no sense of humor, that's a yellow flag. I'll just be a little cautious. Generally I like to meet at a bookstore, so I can see what she's reading when I walk in. That also determines red and yellow flags. The big thing for me is family. I'll ask about her family before I ask about anything else. If her family background is not similar to mine, there won't be a 2nd date. In fact there won't even be a phone call. That family background is 1st priority for me.