What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Ah, Macallan's mad at me because I asked him a simple question...

Look, personally, I don't like tattooes. I would not get one, I am repulsed by permenant body markings--but that's me. If I had a child and he or she had to have one, I probably let them have a temporary one and they would have to pay for it. If they utterly desired having a permenant one, then once they didn't live in my house and did not consume any of my money, then they can do whatever they wanted to their body.

Does that make them trashy and unkempt? To judgemental folks... To others, like the Pacific Islanders it is one of royalty... So, who am I to judge? I just would not want my CHILD to regret an ill-informed decision. As an adult, making ADULT DECISIONS, he or she would have to live with the repercussions of his or her decisions...

I'm not made, haha, just didn't want to have to spell out what I thouhg a good family was. I'm sure you and I could both share similar views on what makes a good family.

........and I agree with you on this quite a bit.

Good Lord people........this is the "dating red or yellow flags section".......loosen up.

[valkyrie]

LOL why is anybody getting defensive about the tattoo thing? Okay, so dude doesn't want to date a woman with a tattoo, because he thinks it makes her trashy and unladylike and whatever. Who the eff cares? I'm guessing that most women with tattoos wouldn't want to date him either, because they're probably not interested in such a conservative, uptight guy. So everybody wins, right?

Hell, I have tattoos and I don't give a rat's ass what some guy I'd never be interested in thinks of them/me/life/whatever. To each his own, and all that crap. Don't worry about someone else's red flags unless you want to date him, you know?

[Scandia]

Tattoos per se to me are a yellow flag. Tattoos in places visible while wearing casual clothes are a red flag. Tacky and large tattoos are a red flag as well. A small, discreet tattoo in a place that would only be seen by your spouse, your doctor, or at most at the beach if you are wearing a speedo, would be only at the yellow flag level. But I dislike tattoos in general and would prefer my future spouse not have a single tattoo.

I like people really clean cut in general- no tattoos, body piercings, or hair dyed in unnatural or psychedelic colors or styled unnaturally. I know that not everybody who has a tattoo/body piercing/funky haircolor or hairdo is a badass or trying to appear like one- but that is what they end up looking like.

[ZTAMich]

A red flag for me once was heavy smoking. The guy kept excusing himself to go outside & smoke. What really pissed me off wasn't the smoking but that he went out more than 2 times to smoke. I understand it's an addiction but have some manners!

[ZTAngel]

Personal attacks will not be tolerated. I don't care if her info is posted on the internet or elsewhere on GC. It won't be posted in my forum.

[Dionysus]

RE: Family, we just have to agree to disagree. If someone has a lot of family drama, there is something they can do about it, cut off or at least reduce contact with them. While I have not come from a super dysfunctional family myself, I wouldn't say that I came from a "Leave it to Beaver" one either, I don't think I'm really judging anyone. I had to reduce contact from a certain grandparent, because this person's drama was definately impacting my life. This is the main reason why someone's family background is so important to me, I don't want to go through drama again. If someone is closer enough to their drama-filled family, I don't see how it can NOT spill over into your relationship and your life.

Yellow Flags
*Has many ex-friends, and can walk away from any friendship without being sad.
*Strongly democrat

Red Flags
*Strongly republican, fortunately those kind of guys usually aren't attracted to me, but you'll never know...
*Appears to be boring AND doesn't want to do crap about it. Never left the state and has no desire to. Only likes one genre of music. Has no style. Whatever people, piercings and tattoos can be sexy, if they don't go overboard. I like goatees, I don't know a boring guy that has one. Does not want to go east of highway 270. Prefers a night in to a night out. Chooses to eat at Applebee's for our first date, LOL.
*Has no sense of humor. Easily offended. I'll ask them what's their favorite movies and comedians to find out their sense of humor. Everyone here on GC knows what my sense of humor is like, if someone doesn't like it, they can bounce!
*IS A WALKING STEREOTYPE OF THEIR RACE! No nerdy Asian guys. No angry black men. No whitebread white men.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

Now see, this is where I agree with you. I have two tattoos and I will be getting a third when I can afford it. However, I have chosen to get them in places where they're not easily visible, because I don't think it's at all classy to have them showing all the time. My sister-in-law got a frog done on her shoulder and you can see them in the wedding pictures. I don't want that. Mine are and always will be discreet.

Originally Posted by ZTAngel

Personal attacks will not be tolerated. I don't care if her info is posted on the internet or elsewhere on GC. It won't be posted in my forum.

Then they shall be posted elsewhere!

[KSUViolet06]

Red flags:

*Gets my number at the end of the date and has called me 5 times before I get home.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You will always be my selfish single little jackass... Not prick...

No, I won't be single all my life, because I'm a great person and treat women with dignity and respect, no matter what she looks like. I don't care if she has 50 tattoos, and a whole drawer full of ankle braceletts I'll still treat her with respect, I just won't be with her, that's all. I just have certain standards that I was raised to have, and I will not settle for less.

Right now I'm currently seeing someone and I happen to have a great time with her when we're together. I thought you were pretty cool at 1st but to explode and call me a jackass because I have certain preferences is wrong, but you're entitled to your own opinion. You settled....o.k. that's what you did. Would I settle? No. Would I want someone to settle for me? No. Because I don't agree with you, I don't call you out of your name. Pretty intelligent AKA Monet. I still like you though .

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by laylo

I hope you're not serious. It's one thing to have a preference, it's another to say if you are wearing X type of jewelry you must come from Y type of family or be Z type of girl. Funny how people who deal with stereotypes all their lives still don't get it.

She may come from a great family and still have a tatoo or bracelet. I haven't seen a girl like that yet, but I'm sure she exist. Would I get serious with her? No. Now that I think about it, there are no yellow flags for me. It's either green or red. If I see a yellow caution, it's just like the traffic light. Yellow always turns to red.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Women I know from good families wouldn't dare get a tatoo because they know how extremely trashy it is. I broke up with a girl once because she got one.

I would have broken up with her too. I agree, to me it's not lady like.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

But you could meet a girl who has tattoos, body piercings, is nerdy and wears glasses. They do exist you know. I should know. lol

To me she would just be a nerdy girl with piercings, tatoos, and wears glasses. She wouldn't be for me though. We would be friends and that's it.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by jubilance1922

Well then, I must not be a nerdy girl, even though I wear glasses and have 2 degrees in chemistry, just because I have a tattoo.

Oh maybe it was coming from a stable two-parent home that made me such a "bad" girl.

I think that's great you have two chemistry degrees, and come from a good family, I'm just not down with the tattoo.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

When I was in college, I brought home this girl who wore an ankle bracelett, and dressed very provocative. She didn't have a tattoo, but the ankle bracelett and provocative clothing were enough to tell my parents she was not my type. The look on my parents faces, I knew right away they didn't approve. I was really young then, and decided to settle. Never again. She turned out to be very permiscuous. I can see girls like that coming a mile away now. I know what you mean about bringing certain girls home to meet the parents.