What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by laylo

I hope you're not serious. It's one thing to have a preference, it's another to say if you are wearing X type of jewelry you must come from Y type of family or be Z type of girl. Funny how people who deal with stereotypes all their lives still don't get it.

Women I know from good families wouldn't dare get a tatoo because they know how extremely trashy it is. I broke up with a girl once because she got one.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Women I know from good families wouldn't dare get a tatoo because they know how extremely trashy it is. I broke up with a girl once because she got one.

Macallan-

Please explain to us lowly simple creatures what a "good family" is?

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Macallan-

Please explain to us lowly simple creatures what a "good family" is?

Sorry, i'm not going to write you a dissertation on what makes a good family. However, I will say that a good family, among many other things, would teach their daughter that a tatoo is beyond trashy, unpresentable, and very unladylike.

[BlessedOne04]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Sorry, i'm not going to write you a dissertation on what makes a good family. However, I will say that a good family, among many other things, would teach their daughter that a tatoo is beyond trashy, unpresentable, and very unladylike.

A tatoo is all of that huh. What if you daughter got one...is she all of those things. What about ink on your skin makes you any of the qualities that you mentioned?

Thats funny because what I thought a good family was are parents (single or married) who teach their children right and wrong. A good family lends support to each other and adds productive members to society. JMO

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by BlessedOne04

A tatoo is all of that huh. What if you daughter got one...is she all of those things. What about ink on your skin makes you any of the qualities that you mentioned?

Thats funny because what I thought a good family was are parents (single or married) who teach their children right and wrong. A good family lends support to each other and adds productive members to society. JMO

I never said that wasn't the mark of a good family....thanks. As long as my daughter lived in my house and was supported by me......she wouldn't have one....simple as that. When she moves out and is on her own.......then she can do whatever she feels is in her best interest......doesn't mean that me and her mother wouldn't despise the fact that she has one and tell her that we don't approve of her having it. However, I really don't see that happening if we teach her that getting a tatoo is not the least bit attractive or classy and is not something that a lady would do to her body.

[valkyrie]

LOL why is anybody getting defensive about the tattoo thing? Okay, so dude doesn't want to date a woman with a tattoo, because he thinks it makes her trashy and unladylike and whatever. Who the eff cares? I'm guessing that most women with tattoos wouldn't want to date him either, because they're probably not interested in such a conservative, uptight guy. So everybody wins, right?

Hell, I have tattoos and I don't give a rat's ass what some guy I'd never be interested in thinks of them/me/life/whatever. To each his own, and all that crap. Don't worry about someone else's red flags unless you want to date him, you know?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

LOL why is anybody getting defensive about the tattoo thing? Okay, so dude doesn't want to date a woman with a tattoo, because he thinks it makes her trashy and unladylike and whatever. Who the eff cares? I'm guessing that most women with tattoos wouldn't want to date him either, because they're probably not interested in such a conservative, uptight guy. So everybody wins, right?

Hell, I have tattoos and I don't give a rat's ass what some guy I'd never be interested in thinks of them/me/life/whatever. To each his own, and all that crap. Don't worry about someone else's red flags unless you want to date him, you know?

Exactly. I agree. I'm very conservative also and would only get serious with a conservative woman. Everyone on here has certain standards and certain people they would continue to spend time with.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Sorry, i'm not going to write you a dissertation on what makes a good family. However, I will say that a good family, among many other things, would teach their daughter that a tatoo is beyond trashy, unpresentable, and very unladylike.

What about tattoos? How do those make a woman look? By the way I do come from a good, stable home where I was taught respect, compassion, discipline, love etc. I was also taught to express myself. Tattoos are another way of doing that. Tattoos can be trashy and classless but they can also be exquisite works of art.
I'm glad I've never dated someone who would break up with me over something as shallow as appearance.

[AKA_Monet]

Ah, Macallan's mad at me because I asked him a simple question...

Look, personally, I don't like tattooes. I would not get one, I am repulsed by permenant body markings--but that's me. If I had a child and he or she had to have one, I probably let them have a temporary one and they would have to pay for it. If they utterly desired having a permenant one, then once they didn't live in my house and did not consume any of my money, then they can do whatever they wanted to their body.

Does that make them trashy and unkempt? To judgemental folks... To others, like the Pacific Islanders it is one of royalty... So, who am I to judge? I just would not want my CHILD to regret an ill-informed decision. As an adult, making ADULT DECISIONS, he or she would have to live with the repercussions of his or her decisions...

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Ah, Macallan's mad at me because I asked him a simple question...

Look, personally, I don't like tattooes. I would not get one, I am repulsed by permenant body markings--but that's me. If I had a child and he or she had to have one, I probably let them have a temporary one and they would have to pay for it. If they utterly desired having a permenant one, then once they didn't live in my house and did not consume any of my money, then they can do whatever they wanted to their body.

Does that make them trashy and unkempt? To judgemental folks... To others, like the Pacific Islanders it is one of royalty... So, who am I to judge? I just would not want my CHILD to regret an ill-informed decision. As an adult, making ADULT DECISIONS, he or she would have to live with the repercussions of his or her decisions...

I'm not made, haha, just didn't want to have to spell out what I thouhg a good family was. I'm sure you and I could both share similar views on what makes a good family.

........and I agree with you on this quite a bit.

Good Lord people........this is the "dating red or yellow flags section".......loosen up.

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by centaur532

What about tattoos? How do those make a woman look? By the way I do come from a good, stable home where I was taught respect, compassion, discipline, love etc. I was also taught to express myself. Tattoos are another way of doing that. Tattoos can be trashy and classless but they can also be exquisite works of art.
I'm glad I've never dated someone who would break up with me over something as shallow as appearance.

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

[Scandia]

Tattoos per se to me are a yellow flag. Tattoos in places visible while wearing casual clothes are a red flag. Tacky and large tattoos are a red flag as well. A small, discreet tattoo in a place that would only be seen by your spouse, your doctor, or at most at the beach if you are wearing a speedo, would be only at the yellow flag level. But I dislike tattoos in general and would prefer my future spouse not have a single tattoo.

I like people really clean cut in general- no tattoos, body piercings, or hair dyed in unnatural or psychedelic colors or styled unnaturally. I know that not everybody who has a tattoo/body piercing/funky haircolor or hairdo is a badass or trying to appear like one- but that is what they end up looking like.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

Now see, this is where I agree with you. I have two tattoos and I will be getting a third when I can afford it. However, I have chosen to get them in places where they're not easily visible, because I don't think it's at all classy to have them showing all the time. My sister-in-law got a frog done on her shoulder and you can see them in the wedding pictures. I don't want that. Mine are and always will be discreet.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

When I was in college, I brought home this girl who wore an ankle bracelett, and dressed very provocative. She didn't have a tattoo, but the ankle bracelett and provocative clothing were enough to tell my parents she was not my type. The look on my parents faces, I knew right away they didn't approve. I was really young then, and decided to settle. Never again. She turned out to be very permiscuous. I can see girls like that coming a mile away now. I know what you mean about bringing certain girls home to meet the parents.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

I am a Pi Phi and I have a carnation on my ankle. I also have 4 other tattoos that no one can see unless I am in my birthday suit.

I have a respectable career, I have an education, I came from a good family.

I think you'd be surprised how many women actually have tattoos. And unless you are jumping into bed with them on the first date, you would probably never know unless they told you.