What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AChiOhSnap

I misread his post and thought he was joking about how his date being under house arrest would raise a red flag. Jeeez, I'm quick today....

My mom told me that, once upon a time, only super skanky women/prostitutes wore ankle bracelets. Maybe that stereotype still holds true in PrettyBoy's area.

My dad thinks the same thing your mom said. He said women who wear ankle bracelets like to screw around. My dad and mom have been married for 43 years and are old fashioned. She doesn't like it either. My thinking isn't as severe as theirs is about women who wear ankle bracelets, I just don't like it.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

See that's the thing... Anything can be grounds for "dismissal"...

All those items he listed, with the exception of family, can be changed.

Homegirl with tattooes--laser surgery...
Fat girls: Exercise, nutrition and bariatric...
Hammertime in girl's hands and feet: manicures & pedicures every 2 weeks
Hair falling off in clumps: saved head style, wigs or weaves or if it's a sistah, au naturel...
Jheri Curled Hair: Braids that grown into locks... Takes 2-3 years... Can be nicely kept
Jacked up teeth: Visit to the dentist, get implants and brighteners
Bad skin: Visit to the dermatologist and plastic surgeon get work done
Overall malaise: Weight training exercise with core workout (i.e. yoga or pilates), visit to a motivational speaker or professional coach.
Odd and strange behavior unrelated to drug use: Visit to a psychological specialist and get therapy. Takes 2-3 years of stabilization with possiblility of medication...

Funky family: Prayer and honest discussion toward offending parts with professional mental healthcare provider present

Now basically, PB does not want to work with a woman thru her issues. He only wants to work on HIS issues with her... He needs to be by himself for awhile rather than unloading his miseries onto other unsuspecting women...

I do like what Valkyrie said though... Be man enough to tell homegirl you're dating what you did not like about her. Of course you will be selfish little prick, but hey, you have your standards.

It's about lifting as you climb.

All of that still isn't going to change my standards. I guess I'll continue to be a "single" selfish little prick.

[laylo]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

if she came from a good family background, I don't think she would be wearing a tatoo or ankle bracelet

I hope you're not serious. It's one thing to have a preference, it's another to say if you are wearing X type of jewelry you must come from Y type of family or be Z type of girl. Funny how people who deal with stereotypes all their lives still don't get it.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

All of that still isn't going to change my standards. I guess I'll continue to be a "single" selfish little prick.

You will always be my selfish single little jackass... Not prick...

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by laylo

I hope you're not serious. It's one thing to have a preference, it's another to say if you are wearing X type of jewelry you must come from Y type of family or be Z type of girl. Funny how people who deal with stereotypes all their lives still don't get it.

Women I know from good families wouldn't dare get a tatoo because they know how extremely trashy it is. I broke up with a girl once because she got one.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Women I know from good families wouldn't dare get a tatoo because they know how extremely trashy it is. I broke up with a girl once because she got one.

Macallan-

Please explain to us lowly simple creatures what a "good family" is?

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I know, I'm very picky, and I don't expect her to be perfect, because I'm not perfect, but if she came from a good family background, I don't think she would be wearing a tatoo or ankle bracelet, but if she did, no I wouldn't want anything but friendship from her. I don't like tatoos, ankle bracelets, or body piercings. I'm just into plain jane girls from backgrounds similar to my own. The nerdy girls that are very attractive under the glasses is what I go after .

But you could meet a girl who has tattoos, body piercings, is nerdy and wears glasses. They do exist you know. I should know. lol

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I know, I'm very picky, and I don't expect her to be perfect, because I'm not perfect, but if she came from a good family background, I don't think she would be wearing a tatoo or ankle bracelet, but if she did, no I wouldn't want anything but friendship from her. I don't like tatoos, ankle bracelets, or body piercings. I'm just into plain jane girls from backgrounds similar to my own. The nerdy girls that are very attractive under the glasses is what I go after .

Well then, I must not be a nerdy girl, even though I wear glasses and have 2 degrees in chemistry, just because I have a tattoo.

Oh maybe it was coming from a stable two-parent home that made me such a "bad" girl.

[laylo]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Women I know from good families wouldn't dare get a tatoo because they know how extremely trashy it is. I broke up with a girl once because she got one.

Surely you see that this is your opinion and not that of every woman from a family you would classify as good, whether you know some who agree with you or not.

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Macallan-

Please explain to us lowly simple creatures what a "good family" is?

Sorry, i'm not going to write you a dissertation on what makes a good family. However, I will say that a good family, among many other things, would teach their daughter that a tatoo is beyond trashy, unpresentable, and very unladylike.

[BlessedOne04]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Sorry, i'm not going to write you a dissertation on what makes a good family. However, I will say that a good family, among many other things, would teach their daughter that a tatoo is beyond trashy, unpresentable, and very unladylike.

A tatoo is all of that huh. What if you daughter got one...is she all of those things. What about ink on your skin makes you any of the qualities that you mentioned?

Thats funny because what I thought a good family was are parents (single or married) who teach their children right and wrong. A good family lends support to each other and adds productive members to society. JMO

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by macallan25

Sorry, i'm not going to write you a dissertation on what makes a good family. However, I will say that a good family, among many other things, would teach their daughter that a tatoo is beyond trashy, unpresentable, and very unladylike.

What about tattoos? How do those make a woman look? By the way I do come from a good, stable home where I was taught respect, compassion, discipline, love etc. I was also taught to express myself. Tattoos are another way of doing that. Tattoos can be trashy and classless but they can also be exquisite works of art.
I'm glad I've never dated someone who would break up with me over something as shallow as appearance.

[AKA_Monet]

Ah, Macallan's mad at me because I asked him a simple question...

Look, personally, I don't like tattooes. I would not get one, I am repulsed by permenant body markings--but that's me. If I had a child and he or she had to have one, I probably let them have a temporary one and they would have to pay for it. If they utterly desired having a permenant one, then once they didn't live in my house and did not consume any of my money, then they can do whatever they wanted to their body.

Does that make them trashy and unkempt? To judgemental folks... To others, like the Pacific Islanders it is one of royalty... So, who am I to judge? I just would not want my CHILD to regret an ill-informed decision. As an adult, making ADULT DECISIONS, he or she would have to live with the repercussions of his or her decisions...

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by BlessedOne04

A tatoo is all of that huh. What if you daughter got one...is she all of those things. What about ink on your skin makes you any of the qualities that you mentioned?

Thats funny because what I thought a good family was are parents (single or married) who teach their children right and wrong. A good family lends support to each other and adds productive members to society. JMO

I never said that wasn't the mark of a good family....thanks. As long as my daughter lived in my house and was supported by me......she wouldn't have one....simple as that. When she moves out and is on her own.......then she can do whatever she feels is in her best interest......doesn't mean that me and her mother wouldn't despise the fact that she has one and tell her that we don't approve of her having it. However, I really don't see that happening if we teach her that getting a tatoo is not the least bit attractive or classy and is not something that a lady would do to her body.

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by centaur532

What about tattoos? How do those make a woman look? By the way I do come from a good, stable home where I was taught respect, compassion, discipline, love etc. I was also taught to express myself. Tattoos are another way of doing that. Tattoos can be trashy and classless but they can also be exquisite works of art.
I'm glad I've never dated someone who would break up with me over something as shallow as appearance.

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.