Nerves...

[CardinalXO]

Hi Sewlovely, don't stress so much. Remember what you said about rush not being too competitive and that there are still other organizations that you would enjoy getting involved in whether or not you accept a bid. You should really be going into this process as a great opportunity to meet people and make friends at your new school in all of the chapters, no matter where you accept a bid! I am also a fairly reserved person but something that helped me was coming up with a couple of funny stories to tell (even if I had to exaggerate a bit) if things got awkward. I am not even sure if I told any of them but it made the whole experience easier on my peace of mind to know that I had something to fall back on.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by sewlovely

I am absoluetly planning on going in with an open mind. I want to end up where I fit best. I've heard a few things about specific sororities, but I'm not letting it factor into my decision at all. There is only one sorority I'm planning on ranking low and it's because they are pretty new (within the last 5-10 years). My mom won't help me pay for a not established sorority. She thinks alumni relations are very important. Is she right or completely wrong?

Your mom is completely wrong, as far as in saying such a thing to you. If she's a sorority alumna, she should know that sororities are cutting rushees as much as rushees are low-ranking sororities, if not more - so to dismiss a group because they're "only" 5 years old at a particular campus may be severely limiting your options.

Alumnae relations can be important, but you won't HAVE alumnae relations if you don't choose a sorority YOU like and feel comfortable with as far as the girls in that chapter. You'll be miserable and quit while you're still in school and won't ever become an alumna.

If she persists in such a narrow-minded attitude, most sororities have payment plans and you won't need her financial assistance.

Please try to put what your mother said totally out of your head. She may think she's being helpful, but she's being exactly the opposite.

[sewlovely]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Your mom is completely wrong, as far as in saying such a thing to you. If she's a sorority alumna, she should know that sororities are cutting rushees as much as rushees are low-ranking sororities, if not more - so to dismiss a group because they're "only" 5 years old at a particular campus may be severely limiting your options.

Alumnae relations can be important, but you won't HAVE alumnae relations if you don't choose a sorority YOU like and feel comfortable with as far as the girls in that chapter. You'll be miserable and quit while you're still in school and won't ever become an alumna.

If she persists in such a narrow-minded attitude, most sororities have payment plans and you won't need her financial assistance.

Please try to put what your mother said totally out of your head. She may think she's being helpful, but she's being exactly the opposite.

She is not an alumna. This is new to both of us and I think she is just trying to understand it and make sure I end up ithe best house for me. She means well, but she is a mother I've spoken to her and I think it's all cleared up.

I'm glad to hear about payment plans though. I'll most likely be paying for everything after freshman year is completed!

I am glad I posted here. It is nice to have information from people who actually know what they're talking about. I've gotten a lot of information that just doesn't make sense from other people, so confusing

[sewlovely]

Originally Posted by CardinalXO

Hi Sewlovely, don't stress so much. Remember what you said about rush not being too competitive and that there are still other organizations that you would enjoy getting involved in whether or not you accept a bid. You should really be going into this process as a great opportunity to meet people and make friends at your new school in all of the chapters, no matter where you accept a bid! I am also a fairly reserved person but something that helped me was coming up with a couple of funny stories to tell (even if I had to exaggerate a bit) if things got awkward. I am not even sure if I told any of them but it made the whole experience easier on my peace of mind to know that I had something to fall back on.

Thanks for responding! I love your tip on the stories. I think that'll really help me stress less!