I don't know how I feel about my sorority...

[sb55]

Thanks to everyone who responded! You were really helpful.

To everyone who said I was lazy and just wanted the world to revolve around me without putting any work in, I wish you would've read that I said "I'm not sure I have the time/skills/effort to do that. I wouldn't be sure where to begin."
It wasn't me saying I wasn't willing to put in the effort, it was me saying I was unsure I was fit for the job.

Please read posts fully before responding, this was all pretty hateful...

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by sb55

Thanks to everyone who responded! You were really helpful.

To everyone who said I was lazy and just wanted the world to revolve around me without putting any work in, I wish you would've read that I said "I'm not sure I have the time/skills/effort to do that. I wouldn't be sure where to begin."
It wasn't me saying I wasn't willing to put in the effort, it was me saying I was unsure I was fit for the job.

Please read posts fully before responding, this was all pretty hateful...

What part of not having the time/effort is NOT lazy? If it was important to you, you would MAKE time. As for skills...that's a cop-out. Everyone has got something they could contribute skills-wise, unless you're a brainless blob. Addressing COB invites, hanging event flyers, and those sorts of things don't require any particular skills that a college student (or first grader) wouldn't have.

[sb55]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

What part of not having the time/effort is NOT lazy? If it was important to you, you would MAKE time. As for skills...that's a cop-out. Everyone has got something they could contribute skills-wise, unless you're a brainless blob. Addressing COB invites, hanging event flyers, and those sorts of things don't require any particular skills that a college student (or first grader) wouldn't have.

Yeah I get you. I just don't know how I would help improve the reputation? How does one do that?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by sb55

Yeah I get you. I just don't know how I would help improve the reputation? How does one do that?

• By presenting yourself well;
• By refusing to buy into the reputation;
• By showing pride in your organization;
• By helping recruit quality members;
• By getting to know your sisters as people, warts and all, and deciding that they matter to you, regardless of what other people think, and
• By not letting it slide when someone gives you the "Oh-you're-in-that-sorority" look. You don't have to be rude, but you can answer with pride "Yes, I am."

That would be a start. Reputations aren't built overnight and they're not broken down overnight, but doing things like this can go a long way in the erosion process.

[princessamy]

Originally Posted by sb55

Thanks to everyone who responded! You were really helpful.

To everyone who said I was lazy and just wanted the world to revolve around me without putting any work in, I wish you would've read that I said "I'm not sure I have the time/skills/effort to do that. I wouldn't be sure where to begin."
It wasn't me saying I wasn't willing to put in the effort, it was me saying I was unsure I was fit for the job.

Please read posts fully before responding, this was all pretty hateful...

Maybe you should reread the posts that you posted.

[LAblondeGPhi]

Originally Posted by sb55

Yeah I get you. I just don't know how I would help improve the reputation? How does one do that?

The book "I Heart Recruitment" is a great resource:
http://www.amazon.com/Heart-Recruitm...1574530&sr=8-1

Originally Posted by sb55

To everyone who said I was lazy and just wanted the world to revolve around me without putting any work in, I wish you would've read that I said "I'm not sure I have the time/skills/effort to do that. I wouldn't be sure where to begin."
It wasn't me saying I wasn't willing to put in the effort, it was me saying I was unsure I was fit for the job.

Please read posts fully before responding, this was all pretty hateful...

As in life, getting defensive on GreekChat will get you nowhere. One of the greatest lessons I learned in college is that if you're not getting the response you desire to either your words or your actions, then you have to look at yourself for the answer - change your approach, change your actions, change your attitude, change your wording, be open to self-evaluation. This is such a good life lesson when you get passed up for a promotion, when you don't get accepted into a competitive program, or when you don't get elected to a position you want.

Anyway, you're young and you came on here for advice. You got hammered a little bit because much of what you've said comes straight out of the classic cop-out lexicon. I think if you read through some of the posts from women in your situation, you'll understand better why you got the responses you did.

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by sb55

Thanks to everyone who responded! You were really helpful.

To everyone who said I was lazy and just wanted the world to revolve around me without putting any work in, I wish you would've read that I said "I'm not sure I have the time/skills/effort to do that. I wouldn't be sure where to begin."
It wasn't me saying I wasn't willing to put in the effort, it was me saying I was unsure I was fit for the job.

Please read posts fully before responding, this was all pretty hateful...

I feel like I understand your point. I really, really do. I feel like, to a lot of people, the "image" of a sorority is fun. It's about fun, but the fun comes with a lot of hard work. Mixers, formals, date dashes, even initiations don't plan themselves. Someone's putting in the work.

But I understand your concern. What if I don't have enough time to be the one planning the events that make girls come and join? And this could be true. But that doesn't mean that you cannot and should not stick it out and continue supporting however you can. Not everyone has to be on eboard. Heck, there isn't enough room in most houses for everyone to be on eboard.

I think the question you have to ask is, "how can I contribute to this house, and what can I do to make myself a functioning member of this sorority and still be a well-rounded human being?" I can't think of a house on this planet that doesn't want to be "plugged in" to the other aspects of campus life, and academics are always the most important thing.

I do see your point, I'm not trying to snark at you. I just feel like you worded it terribly.