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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
OK, you can't expect women to be friends, or friendly, with you when you are not physically there. These friendships, contrary to popular opinion, are not automatic. You have to WORK at them. But none of that matters if these girls are not good enough for you or the opinion of outsiders means more than the opinion of your friends. But then, they're not your friends, so the opinion of strangers might just as well be the only valid one.
Yes there are things you can do as a member to improve your campus reputation, and it only takes a few members who are more outgoing to draw some women out of their shells, but you have to be willing to not have your life, your friendships, your social status handed to you on a silver platter. If you were WILLING to say proudly that you are a member of your sorority, maybe that perception would begin to change. If you have to whisper it so nobody else hears, you are only making that reputation worse.
And ask yourself this. What of those great activities you're hearing other sororities are doing that you want have you tried to arrange within your own chapter and got shot down? What leadership roles or committees have you volunteered for to make your situation better? What WORK have you been willing to put in? Or was your job to be pretty?
If you're old enough to go away to college, live in a dorm, travel far away to competitions, you're old enough to read a membership contract before signing it, and you're old enough to accept responsibility for the commitments you've made.
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I get where you're coming from, but I didn't sign up to work super hard to improve our reputation and make us look good on campus. i signed up for a sorority because it seemed like fun; it seemed like somewhere I could meet a lot of people and have a good time. Of course I would love to help out with stuff...but not improving-reputation kind of stuff. I honestly wouldn't even know where to begin with that. I don't think I have the time, energy, brain-power, patience, and skill to pull off something like that...but is that such a crime? There wasn't a "membership contract" that said that.
And anytime I've tried to ask people to go out before, no one seems interested. I never said these girls were horrible people, just that I don't think I fit in with them.
And I don't know what you mean by valuing the opinions of outsiders more than the opinions of friends/ strangers.
If you could elaborate and reply that'd be great, thanks
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