I don't know how I feel about my sorority...

[DZsis&mom]

To the OP:

I'm going to put this in Dance Company analogy for you.

You audition for a Dance Company (let say before your Freshman year in HS) & you join. You go to the first Competition & you find out your are not a Top Studio, that you are in "one of those filler" studios at the Competition. You hate the looks & are embarrassed to be with your Groups on Stage. Also, you really have no connection to any of your fellow company members (because you just show up for class & leave). You tell your mom you want to switch. She tells you NO, because she has already spent $3000 for all the costumes & made reservation for the whole family for Nationals.

Your mom tells you to work hard & see where it goes. So you show up early for every practice, interact with your group, & take all the extra workshops the studio offers. You also decide to start doing sleepovers & going out for breakfast with your group members. You find out you actually like a lot of them. Your hard work pays off and by the end of the session your Small Group gets Platinum at Nationals.

Some other dancers you know are looking for a studio -- well because now you LOVE your Small Group, you encourage them to audition for your Studio.

Time passes and now you are a Senior in HS & when you go to competitions, your Studio is the TOP Studio. It didn't happen overnight. You worked hard, kept asking other good dancers to join your Company, & kept a positive Attitude.

You were rewarded with High Praises & Top Awards. You grew as a Dancer, a Company Member, & as a Woman.

With all Organizations in Life, you can't just show up for the Fun Stuff. It takes work and commitment from everyone involved to succeed. Change is slow but possible.

I believe you learned a long time ago not to just give up. You need to use those lessons now. Best of luck to you.

[AXEling]

Originally Posted by DZsis&mom

To the OP:

I'm going to put this in Dance Company analogy for you.

You audition for a Dance Company (let say before your Freshman year in HS) & you join. You go to the first Competition & you find out your are not a Top Studio, that you are in "one of those filler" studios at the Competition. You hate the looks & are embarrassed to be with your Groups on Stage. Also, you really have no connection to any of your fellow company members (because you just show up for class & leave). You tell your mom you want to switch. She tells you NO, because she has already spent $3000 for all the costumes & made reservation for the whole family for Nationals.

Your mom tells you to work hard & see where it goes. So you show up early for every practice, interact with your group, & take all the extra workshops the studio offers. You also decide to start doing sleepovers & going out for breakfast with your group members. You find out you actually like a lot of them. Your hard work pays off and by the end of the session your Small Group gets Platinum at Nationals.

Some other dancers you know are looking for a studio -- well because now you LOVE your Small Group, you encourage them to audition for your Studio.

Time passes and now you are a Senior in HS & when you go to competitions, your Studio is the TOP Studio. It didn't happen overnight. You worked hard, kept asking other good dancers to join your Company, & kept a positive Attitude.

You were rewarded with High Praises & Top Awards. You grew as a Dancer, a Company Member, & as a Woman.

With all Organizations in Life, you can't just show up for the Fun Stuff. It takes work and commitment from everyone involved to succeed. Change is slow but possible.

I believe you learned a long time ago not to just give up. You need to use those lessons now. Best of luck to you.

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[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I "signed up" to be in a sorority so I can be pretty and people can revolve around me whose sole purpose is to make me happy. I stand by my original statement. Drop. They're too good for you. And if they are the ugliest, dorkiest heifers who ever wore sorority letters, they're STILL too good for you.

Originally Posted by DGTess

I feel for your sisters.

These are women who chose to have you join them. They invited you to be part of their sisterhood - with all that entails.

I guarantee you your sisters don't feel their sorority is weird or awkward. They believe this is the place they belong. They invited you to join that home with them. Instead of being a sister, you're the long-lost cousin whose family moved to another area and prefers to regard the family as laughable.

Why should they keep you around?

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Why did you accept a bid to a sorority you didn't like?
I find it interesting that you were too busy to go to any events prior to initiation.
Did you attempt to connect to any of the women? Were you approachable or did you stand in the corner with your hands stuffed deep into your pockets?
Had you not been aware of this group's reputation prior to accepting the bid?
During your initiation, you didn't notice anything in the language regarding a lifetime commitment? It's odd to me that you'd expect others to point out something like that.
Wow @ seeing your dues as paying for people.

To answer your final question - you should just quit. Seriously.

To all these replies the only thing I can say is


Y'all are telling it like it is!

And if you think we are

You are right


If you feel this badly about your sorority, don't be the one bad apple. You really should drop. Your attitude is not doing you or your sisters any favors