I do not like my chapter...

[tiana01]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Do you go over to the house just to hang out - no meetings or anything involved?

If you're with someone else and see a sister sitting in the student center/cafeteria/lobby of a class building, do you automatically go over and say hi to her and introduce your friend, or do you avoid her because you're with someone else? This also applies if you're by yourself.

why do you want to do this? Do you think your HS friends will be there?

Of course i go to meetings! I'm actually just came from one! And I have more later on in the day

Yes i automatically go over and introduce my friends and say hi!

I just want to be closer to my dad becuase he is a lot older 60's and trying to spend as much time with him becuase he is not in the greatest health condition.

How in the world does HS play into this? I just miss my dad.

Originally Posted by truebluekappa08

I totally understand what you're saying. This isn't your fault, and it isn't your chapter's. It seems like you have really made an effort so far, which is more than a lot of sisters do when they're feeling left out.

If you need to transfer for financial or personal reasons, then you should absolutely try to reaffiliate at your new school and try your best there. However, if you don't need to transfer just yet, i definitely agree with some of the advice on here.

Recruitment as an initiated sister is a totally new experience! it is one of the most memorable bonding experiences of my 4 years. Living in is also a great experience. i lived in the house my sophomore and junior years, and it felt totally different from my freshman year, it was great! Until you move in to the house, and start recruitment, just try and keep doing what you've been doing: making an effort, going to events, and getting to know your sisters. If after all that, it just doesn't work out, then maybe that chapter just isn't for you.

Thank you!!! Thats my plan!! I even have a lot of things today to do with my sisters and I am Living in next year!! So I think that if I keep putting the effort in it will pay off.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I still say that your desire to transfer for financial and home sick reasons can create a tone of "someone PLEASE make me happy" and "I'm only here as long as I can be here" that other sisters may sense.

Also, note that there can be a difference between "I do not like my chapter" and "I'm not close to any of the members...yet." You've already decided that you do not like them. I definitely consider that both a self-fulfilling prophecy and bad mouthing your chapter.

I still dont see the bad mouthing thing. I never said they were horrible mean women in fact they are the exact opposite. I just said we are not clicking. Also from what I have been saying, i think, it has been clear that i mean "I'm not close to any of the members...yet.".

And really they dont know about the transferring thing at all it just something that i've been looking over for the future possibility. Like I stated above I am living in next year so.


[QUOTE=33girl;2041466]So in other words, you joined this group primarily because of its national reputation/values/mission/what have you, rather than because you felt a connection with the girls in your present school's chapter?QUOTE]

No in fact I never heard of my sorority before rush. Also I felt that if I participated more i would be closer. I have made progress which I am happy about.