I do not like my chapter...

[tiana01]

Originally Posted by excelblue

Has being on committees exposed you to things like those, or has it just mostly been business as usual and lunches that end after an hour?

Actual its the social commitee so its really relaxed and last for a a few hours but I enjoy it! I do not even notice the time.

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Also, depending on your sorority, the sisters at the transfer school may vote against accepting your affiliation. Then you'd have no sorority to be active with on campus at all.

Yes, I was aware of this also!

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I would stop blaming others and think of how I may contribute to the tone of the chapter. I doubt that you feel isolated from the chapter due to no fault of your own. That's not usually how it works. Even complaining to us (and probably others), wanting to transfer, and saying that you're giving it one more year sets a tone that others can probably feel.

What I suggest: Relaxing and letting things flow as they will; and not bad mouthing the chapter to other people.

Things that the chapter can discuss doing (not based on your complaints): sisterhood retreats; discuss membership and sisterhood at the chapter meetings; plan a really fun event together; plan a service event together. You may be doing these things but their success requires equal participation and people being open to each other.

It's important to remember that sometimes college students are going to act like silly people because they're young. But, silly and stupid are not exclusive to the members of your chapter; and they don't end when you graduate from college. Be realistic about what you expect. And don't treat others as though you are above the influence and they're disappointing you.

[QUOTE=DrPhil;2041436]Just as I thought, the real issue isn't your sorority. The real issue is you. QUOTE]

1) I do NOT blame my chapter for my dislike! They have put as much effort as I have! Its more like i am not clicking with the girls so far and vice versa. Like KSUViolet said maybe i just have to live in to be closer! Which I am next year! And even this has gotten me closer to some girls.

2) I feel that I have not Bad mouthed my chapter. I just said I am not close to anyone.

3) Our chapter already does all thosethings you listed! Even I have said ideas for sisterhoods.

4) Im not expecting to be BFF instantly but atleast be more than an associate. Also i do not treat my chapter like i am dissappointed in them when they day ends they are still my sisters.

Originally Posted by tootiepie2

Also after participting in recruitment as an active you might feel better and more bonded with some of the sisters. You will be spending a lot of time together during that week and depending on your school the week before. It really brings people together.

I have gone through recruitment as an active.