I do not like my chapter...

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by tiana01

but I love my Sorority. I have been wanting to transfer to another school in hopes of being closer to the girls in that chapter. However this is not the only/main reason I want to transfer. I have actively tried to get close to girls in the chapter: going to the house more, inviting girls out to eat, and participating more in activities but it is certainly a bust. My plan is to give it another year with me actually living in to see if it gets any better. What would you do?

I would stop blaming others and think of how I may contribute to the tone of the chapter. I doubt that you feel isolated from the chapter due to no fault of your own. That's not usually how it works. Even complaining to us (and probably others), wanting to transfer, and saying that you're giving it one more year sets a tone that others can probably feel.

One thing that I've learned at the college and alumnae levels is that if a chapter disliked a person, that person may not have become a member (or been allowed to affiliate) in the first place. The members who feel isolated often contribute to how they feel--some people are socially awkward or are trying too hard to make friends rather than relaxing and letting life flow.

What I suggest: Relaxing and letting things flow as they will; and not bad mouthing the chapter to other people.

Things that the chapter can discuss doing (not based on your complaints): sisterhood retreats; discuss membership and sisterhood at the chapter meetings; plan a really fun event together; plan a service event together. You may be doing these things but their success requires equal participation and people being open to each other.

It's important to remember that sometimes college students are going to act like silly people because they're young. But, silly and stupid are not exclusive to the members of your chapter; and they don't end when you graduate from college. Be realistic about what you expect. And don't treat others as though you are above the influence and they're disappointing you.