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Originally Posted by gee_ess
With regard to the pain felt by the moms, I think they are most hurt that by getting cut, the chapter is saying the group doesn't like their daughters. That is truly the bottom line to all this emotion.
All of these women have been through MS. In my opinion, that is why they react so strongly. They know what goes on, they have heard the things that are discussed, they know the reasons for cuts, etc. So, to imagine their daughters as the main subject of those events, is hard to swallow. They remember doing it to others...
Like someone earlier said, no matter how hard you try, when someone decides your child is not good enough to make the team, or doesn't get a part in the play, or get dumped the day before the prom, it is human nature to think, "What?!"
All of the posturing and threats and negativity is a result of the sickening feeling they have that deep down, despite all of Perfect Patty's attributes, it still wasn't enough to make them want her.
I read the ADPi Facebook stuff - wow. I hate it that social networking can feed the fire of this type reaction. In the old days, these comments took place over the phone to select people or in some social settings. Hurt alums threatened to turn in pins, and withdraw financial support but it rarely happened. Women soothed their friends, and people eventually got over it. Technology is not helping!
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I feel obligated to say that, this time, Alpha Delta Pi's feet were put to the fire - but this could have just as easily been any other GLO's. Yes, we do love legacies, and do try to pledge them - if they fit in.
Just as violetpretty stated, MS has changed radically since these women were actives - I found that out as an Advisor, and it
shocked me. Shocked me with how more
honest & equalizing it is! That was my first tip off that the more angry alumnae haven't been volunteering lately, nor have they been doing their math. If each alumna has just two daughters, that's twice as many legacies than when she rushed, and with the popularity of greeks on the rise, there are twice as many very worthy young women who should be given a chance, too.
I would explain it in a much easier fashion, but y'all will understand when I say that I cannot.
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