How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[KSUViolet06]

I wonder how truly supportive some moms are of their kids who end up pledging elsewhere?

I have heard stories of moms who are fully supportive, attend Parent's Day events, the whole nine yards.

Then I have heard of others who make it really tough for their child by constantly lamenting the fact that they're not XYZ. Sometimes that girl drops out of her sorority before initiation because mom just doesn't approve. Or she insists that she transfer to another school, try to get a bid, initiate, and transfer back.

At what point do you say "I just want Suzy to be happy?"

I mean, harping on it to the point that your kid quits her chapter, or telling her she HAS to drop out and attempt to pledge elsewhere, doesn't make her any more XYZ.

It just wastes a year that she could spend HAPPY in her chapter that she received a bid from.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

At what point do you say "I just want Suzy to be happy?"

When you grow the hell up and stop making your daughter's life about you?

I'm so lucky my mom was sane and mature and even though I was the one to rank her chapter lower than Sigma Kappa, she never would have THOUGHT about taking it out on me, my happiness, my new chapter or the collegiate chapter of her sorority.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I wonder how truly supportive some moms are of their kids who end up pledging elsewhere?


Then I have heard of others who make it really tough for their child by constantly lamenting the fact that they're not XYZ. Sometimes that girl drops out of her sorority before initiation because mom just doesn't approve. Or she insists that she transfer to another school, try to get a bid, initiate, and transfer back.

At what point do you say "I just want Suzy to be happy?"

Not a situation where the legacy chapter cut the legacy, but...
I was rush advisor the year that a big legacy at XYZ chose Kappa over her mom's chapter. The mom was in town for rush (not unusual at this campus) and when she learned the daughter put KKG number 1 instead of XYZ, the mom left town and refused to attend Bid Day celebrations. She never attended a Mom's Day event either.

Nice one.