Need advice regarding roommate and her creepy boyfriend

[ZTAngel]

Haha. I forgot that I posted about this. Here is the conclusion to the story...

She ended up breaking up with this guy but lost a lot of friends along the way who just didn't want anything to do with him...or her for that matter.

My friend moved through a series of bad relationships until she met a new guy. This new guy was another "winner." He was a very mean, abusive guy. He constantly told my friend that she needed to lose weight. In an act of rebellion, she ballooned up 75 pounds. She was miserable and changed a lot and lost another one of her best friends because of this guy. I didn't really see my friend's metamorphosis that much since my friend was in Florida and I was in Georgia but I had heard from people that there were a lot of weird things going on in their relationship. They eventually moved in together and things got really rocky. She had to put the house, bank accounts, credit cards, etc. under her name because he had filed for bankruptcy only a year before due to a gambling addiction....an addiction that he never bothered to get help for. He still went to the casino boats during the weekends. Then they got engaged....

I kept my feelings to myself about her new guy until this past April. I flew into Orlando for her bridal shower/bachelorette party that I both planned and paid for. He was terrible to me the whole weekend and continuously said rude and insulting things. Instead of sticking up for me, my friend laughed at his insults because she was probably happy that for once he was picking on someone else.

I was set to come in to Orlando for her wedding in June but I was getting angrier and angrier by the day. I couldn't talk to my friend on the phone w/o her fiance saying something terrible about me in the background. I lost it. I told her that I no longer wanted to ride in the car with them on our way to her rehearsal dinner because I just couldn't stand to be stuck in a car with him for more than 30 minutes. She overreacted and told me not to bother to come in for the wedding. I happily obliged.

I feel bad because she keeps getting herself into abusive relationships but she's had a lot of warnings from a few of her closest friends who she's lost along the way.

[KSUViolet06]

He sounds like a real winner ZTAngel. The gambling issue would have been the dealbreaker for me. Why are you moving in with and marrying someone who has a gambling addiction? It's not like it changes once you're married. Then you end up having to be the "money police" and try to make sure he doesn't spend ALL of it. Then it gets more complicated once kids come into the picture...

It seems like some women will put up with anything just to get engaged/married and be able to say that they have someone.

It's sad because she probably feels as though she can't do better.

I predict that they'll be divorced within a few years and she'll probably come looking for you and all of her other friends.

[WVU alpha phi]

I'm currently dealing with a friend who's in a TERRIBLE relationship. They moved into together after 8 months of dating, she moved out 3 months after when she found out he was sneaking around with his ex-fiance, and now she's planning on moving BACK in with him (breaking her apartment lease 6 months early) at the end of January.

Every day I get emails, texts, and calls about something he's done. Hanging up on her, telling her they never should've gotten back together, leaving her place during a fight when she's crying because he "doesn't want to deal with her." She bent over backwards to make things work with him and he walks all over her because he knows he can. Here's what REALLY annoyed me- she moved out into her own place yet just paid $350 to get a pipe fixed in HIS house because his heat wasn't working! AND she makes him dinner every night, he eats then goes back to his place. His excuse is that he doesn't like being at the apartment because she never should've moved out. Um, maybe he shouldn't have been talking to his ex-fiance every day!

Oh, and did I mention that he hits on me in front of her? We live in different states so I've only met him twice, but I get texts from her phone about hooking up with me, how hot I am, he'll leave her to be with me, etc. And she just laughs all this off! He said this stuff in front of my bf once and I thought he was going to punch him.

Can you tell I hate this guy?