How important is family background to you?

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

It doesn't matter what those people want. The timing and whether you two have children at all is solely based on you two (and with the children in mind).

Or maybe I'm the only one who believes in telling family members to fugg off and mind their own business. It's a masterful art.

We have told her in no uncertain terms that right now is not the right time, and that we'll let her know when the right time is.

Live-in told me later that "the right time" will be when we live far enough away from her that she'd have to call before coming over.

We'll probably be ready for kids by the time we get married, anyway.

She and I were talking last night about how horrible a house wife I make - she was a house wife since getting married (of course I didn't think about it before I said "I just don't think I'm cut out to be a house wife - it's not that I find the work hard it's just that I'm not great at planning meals!"). I don't think she was offended though - she offered a bunch of recipes that she knows my boyfriend likes. I told her that he will eat what I put in the table whether or not it was something that he wanted.

On the crappy family members thing, my boyfriend's brother said to me last night that "he can be as big a jerk to me as he wants and I can't do much about it." I looked at my boyfriend, he nodded, and I said "You can be as big a jerk as you want. Believe me. But I'll only tolerate it to the degree that my sense of humor can handle it. At that point, I'll be a big jerk right back to you."

My boyfriend nodded and said "Believe me, she's got you beat. She hasn't pulled her bitchiness out of her bag of tricks with you yet."

His brother's a great guy, he just pushes boundaries is all. He'll know where my boundaries are when he crosses them. Then he'll never cross them again!