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[agzg]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Why even get married if you're still going to be doing things the way you were doing them when you weren't married?

I don't think banking is the reason why a couple should get married or that it should be a cause of contention between couples. There are still other reasons besides "we wanna live together" and "we wanna share money." For example, being able to cover one another under health insurance, being able to be with one another and to make decisions for each other (if need be) in the hospital, being able to inherit property without a will, etc.

There should be a difference between "share our lives" and "share our bank account." Like I said before, as long as the bulk of our income is going toward the household, I don't see why it should be a problem.

I'm confident that once we can afford a small wedding and the stuff that goes into it without throwing ourselves into debt, we will be getting married.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I don't think banking is the reason why a couple should get married or that it should be a cause of contention between couples.

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I'm confident that once we can afford a small wedding and the stuff that goes into it without throwing ourselves into debt, we will be getting married.

I think you are right on about this. I already know a few couples that married before they were really ready, and then poof, marriage ended in a year or so. I hate seeing that. It's usually because they don't have enough life expeirence on their own and I really do wish more people my age would put off marriage until they are a bit more mature and sound, both emotionally and financially.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

There should be a difference between "share our lives" and "share our bank account." Like I said before, as long as the bulk of our income is going toward the household, I don't see why it should be a problem.

Exactly.