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Old 01-19-2008, 10:04 AM
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You all keep begging her to try to stay. To be quite honest, she doesn't really seem like she wants to stay a ZTA. Yes, she has other, more important things on her mind, but it really doesn't seem very important to her. So why beg someone to stay in your organization if they don't really care about it?
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Old 01-19-2008, 12:13 PM
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You all keep begging her to try to stay. To be quite honest, she doesn't really seem like she wants to stay a ZTA. Yes, she has other, more important things on her mind, but it really doesn't seem very important to her. So why beg someone to stay in your organization if they don't really care about it?
I think the reason why alums from ZTA and other chapters are trying to retain this woman is simply because it's our job to convince women that sorority life is not just a college club. If we claim that sisterhood is for life, then silently watch as a women drops out, our claims would be empty and meaningless. If a collegiate member wants to drop, then she should drop with the full knowledge of everything she will miss out on for the rest of her life. If losing future benefits is okay with her, then go ahead and drop. She only pledged to be in a college club and that's all she'll get.
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Old 01-19-2008, 12:47 PM
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I think some of us make the mistake of thinking everyone in our organizations is in it for a lifetime and thats just not how it is for many girls.... we have given her the information and she can do with it what she wants its all here for her to refer to.....
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Old 01-19-2008, 05:41 PM
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I think some of us make the mistake of thinking everyone in our organizations is in it for a lifetime and thats just not how it is for many girls.... we have given her the information and she can do with it what she wants its all here for her to refer to.....
Exactly. She was given all the information, then still decided to drop. As much as we believe a sorority is for life, we can't MAKE people stay in it. It just seems desperate for everyone to beg her to stay when she really hasn't shown even the slightest inkling of desire to stay a ZTA.
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Old 01-19-2008, 06:08 PM
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Exactly. She was given all the information, then still decided to drop. As much as we believe a sorority is for life, we can't MAKE people stay in it. It just seems desperate for everyone to beg her to stay when she really hasn't shown even the slightest inkling of desire to stay a ZTA.

And you know this how?

Have you ever been in this position, I doubt it!


I am sure she is out or on here asking for help on what she should try to do!

It seems that she cares about ZTA and cares about them very much.

She is in a dire situation and is a lost sole, scared and looking for some help and leadership!

Were you ever young?
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Old 01-19-2008, 06:15 PM
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And you know this how?
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I am sure she is out or on here asking for help on what she should try to do!
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She was given advice from several people. They can only give her so much guidance; the ultimate decision lies with her. And as much as it may hurt her sisters, she's an adult, so she can make adult decisions.
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Old 01-19-2008, 08:44 PM
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And you know this how?

Have you ever been in this position, I doubt it!


I am sure she is out or on here asking for help on what she should try to do!

It seems that she cares about ZTA and cares about them very much.

She is in a dire situation and is a lost sole, scared and looking for some help and leadership!

Were you ever young?
Did you read the responses? She has been given very good, firm advice from her sister ZTAs and other GLO members - and has made it clear that she isn't really looking for advice, as she doesn't intend to take it. I guess she came here looking for support or validation for a course of action she had already determined to follow. That is certainly her right, but don't you dare start with your negative attitude when my fellow NPC women have given her every chance to PROVE her so-called love for ZTA by treating it as more than a college club. She really just wants the easy way out - which is fine - but we are going to call a spade a spade. I realize you LIVE to castigate certain individuals as much as possible, but this really gets me, because it so totally unwarranted.
Yes, we have all been young, and many of us have dealt with the issue of early alumnae status as collegians and alumnae advisors. She has received support, positive advice, and encouragement.
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Old 01-19-2008, 10:52 PM
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I know this may be a strange question now, but can she just give up her membership? I guess maybe another ZTA can answer this.


I know in Theta, we don't have inactive status, so if an active was in this situation she would have to go early alum.
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Old 01-20-2008, 01:48 PM
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Did you read the responses? She has been given very good, firm advice from her sister ZTAs and other GLO members - and has made it clear that she isn't really looking for advice, as she doesn't intend to take it. I guess she came here looking for support or validation for a course of action she had already determined to follow. That is certainly her right, but don't you dare start with your negative attitude when my fellow NPC women have given her every chance to PROVE her so-called love for ZTA by treating it as more than a college club. She really just wants the easy way out - which is fine - but we are going to call a spade a spade.
One can want and listen to advice even if they choose not to follow it.
If ZTA is not a high enough priority for her to fight for at this point in time, then this is understandable. She has a lot of other things that are higher on her list of priorities. She is now aware that she has the option of going alum, but appears to feel as if this is her chapter's way of telling her they disapprove of her pregnancy. Her response is to turn away from them, very natural. One can love something and choose to let it go.

I realize who this post was in response to, hence it's abrasiveness, but you're making a lot of assumptions about a young woman based apparently only on the fact that she's choosing not to follow advice that, while well intentioned, may not be in her best interests at this time.
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