Pregnant and in a sorority

[SWTXBelle]

Did I miss something? Didn't YOU come here and ASK for advice? If the advice you have received from family and friends is enough, why even post here? Having done so, you can't then say "Don't give me advice! Don't judge!" without look really stupid. You asked for it, you got it - how about acting like a grown-up instead of a petulant child about it? If you think you are doing the right thing, that should be enough. Don't look for validation from the internet. Just do it.

I think what is annoying here are your continued attempts to have your cake and eat it too - to have us slop sugar on you and cry "Oh poor you" while you throw away the very thing you say you love. Most of us here are dedicated sorority women who have managed to juggle a variety of conflicting demands - but still include our commitment to our sorority. When we made our vows, we meant them. They weren't just words we said so we could get a letter jersey. Our creeds and symphonies are a part of who we are, not just something we thought sounded good in college but could be left behind later. I myself was married in college, and went alum. I didn't have a choice - but I continued to be active with my chapter as an alumna in college, and then once I graduated I was an advisor for another chapter. We are not just a random group of Greeks - we have in our midst outstanding women who have dealt with all kinds of issues and situations - including some very much like yours. So when we tell you that it is not necessary to drop, we know of whence we speak.

And just spare us the whole "I love my sisterhood" thing. What your chapter sisters do or do not have in the way of sisterhood is not up for discussion. Your actions regarding Zeta are. You willingly gave it up - that speaks volumes more than anything you can post here. Your mother's experience just vindicates what I thought early on - to you, ZTA was a college club, not for a lifetime. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I guess. If you are unhappy with the response here, stop coming. After all, you are no longer a Greek. Why come to Greekchat? Harsh, yes - but warranted.

And speaking as a mother of four who went to graduate school with a newborn - for your sanity's sake you need to make a little time for something in your life that is NOT motherhood related, or you will soon become a very unhappy, bored mombot. I know, I know, the world revolves around you, you are the only woman in the world who has ever had to juggle marriage and children and school and money issues.

[scbelle]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Did I miss something? Didn't YOU come here and ASK for advice? If the advice you have received from family and friends is enough, why even post here? Having done so, you can't then say "Don't give me advice! Don't judge!" without look really stupid. You asked for it, you got it - how about acting like a grown-up instead of a petulant child about it? If you think you are doing the right thing, that should be enough. Don't look for validation from the internet. Just do it.

I think what is annoying here are your continued attempts to have your cake and eat it too - to have us slop sugar on you and cry "Oh poor you" while you throw away the very thing you say you love. Most of us here are dedicated sorority women who have managed to juggle a variety of conflicting demands - but still include our commitment to our sorority. When we made our vows, we meant them. They weren't just words we said so we could get a letter jersey. Our creeds and symphonies are a part of who we are, not just something thought sounded good in college but could be left behind later. I myself was married in college, and went alum. I didn't have a choice - but I continued to be active with my chapter as an alumna in college, and then once I graduated I was an advisor for another chapter. We are not just a random group of Greeks - we have in our midst outstanding women who have dealt with all kinds of issues and situations - including some very much like yours. So when we tell you that it is not necessary to drop, we know of whence we speak.

And just spare us the whole "I love my sisterhood" thing. What your chapter sisters do or do not have in the way of sisterhood is not up for discussion. Your actions regarding Zeta are. You willingly gave it up - that speaks volumes more than anything you can post here. Your mother's experience just vindicates what I thought early on - to you, ZTA was a college club, not for a lifetime. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I guess. If you are unhappy with the response here, stop coming. After all, you are no longer a Greek. Why come to Greekchat? Harsh, yes - but warranted.

And speaking as a mother of four who went to graduate school with a newborn - for your sanity's sake you need to make a little time for something in your life that is NOT motherhood related, or you will soon become a very unhappy, bored mombot. I know, I know, the world revolves around you, you are the only woman in the world who has ever had to juggle marriage and children and school and money issues.

*bows to you*
Amazing post, SWTXBelle. You make so much sense. I just wish that the pregger Zeta was not so hormonal right now and could take in everything you said with a clear head. I think she would find a lot of truth in what you speak.