Pregnant and in a sorority

[lilzetakitten]

ZTAberry, I totally get that right now you have bigger things to worry about than Zeta. A child is a huge commitment, as is marriage! But this advice is coming from another collegiate, not an alumna. I don't have the same pressing issues you do, but I am in the same life stage.

Your chapter sisters had their chance to deny membership to you as you went through recruitment. However, when they chose to give you a bid, the ball went into your court, and it's been there ever since. They have absolutely NO RIGHT to deny you your membership in ZTA.

Do you have a close relationship with any of your advisors? Even if you don't, I'm certain that they would be more than happy to help you keep your membership. The EC of your chapter is not the be-all, end-all to ZTA. You can very easily go over their heads, and that's your right completely.

Even if you don't want to do this for you right now, think about what it would mean if you had a girl, to know that you could share that sisterhood with her. It's always very special to my chapter when we get a legacy, especially when her family member can come to her initiation.

Like I mentioned, this is your choice, and I don't doubt that you love ZTA. But you have just as much right to keep your membership as any other initiated sister.

[couggirl]

Originally Posted by lilzetakitten

Do you have a close relationship with any of your advisors? Even if you don't, I'm certain that they would be more than happy to help you keep your membership. The EC of your chapter is not the be-all, end-all to ZTA. You can very easily go over their heads, and that's your right completely.

It sounded from a post in the start of this thread that she is close to her Big sister, maybe she could help her with (at least) moral support???

[kddani]

You all keep begging her to try to stay. To be quite honest, she doesn't really seem like she wants to stay a ZTA. Yes, she has other, more important things on her mind, but it really doesn't seem very important to her. So why beg someone to stay in your organization if they don't really care about it?

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by kddani

You all keep begging her to try to stay. To be quite honest, she doesn't really seem like she wants to stay a ZTA. Yes, she has other, more important things on her mind, but it really doesn't seem very important to her. So why beg someone to stay in your organization if they don't really care about it?

I think the reason why alums from ZTA and other chapters are trying to retain this woman is simply because it's our job to convince women that sorority life is not just a college club. If we claim that sisterhood is for life, then silently watch as a women drops out, our claims would be empty and meaningless. If a collegiate member wants to drop, then she should drop with the full knowledge of everything she will miss out on for the rest of her life. If losing future benefits is okay with her, then go ahead and drop. She only pledged to be in a college club and that's all she'll get.

[Zeta13Girl]

I think some of us make the mistake of thinking everyone in our organizations is in it for a lifetime and thats just not how it is for many girls.... we have given her the information and she can do with it what she wants its all here for her to refer to.....

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Zeta13Girl

I think some of us make the mistake of thinking everyone in our organizations is in it for a lifetime and thats just not how it is for many girls.... we have given her the information and she can do with it what she wants its all here for her to refer to.....

Exactly. She was given all the information, then still decided to drop. As much as we believe a sorority is for life, we can't MAKE people stay in it. It just seems desperate for everyone to beg her to stay when she really hasn't shown even the slightest inkling of desire to stay a ZTA.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by kddani

Exactly. She was given all the information, then still decided to drop. As much as we believe a sorority is for life, we can't MAKE people stay in it. It just seems desperate for everyone to beg her to stay when she really hasn't shown even the slightest inkling of desire to stay a ZTA.

And you know this how?

Have you ever been in this position, I doubt it!


I am sure she is out or on here asking for help on what she should try to do!

It seems that she cares about ZTA and cares about them very much.

She is in a dire situation and is a lost sole, scared and looking for some help and leadership!

Were you ever young?