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I lived with my husband before we got married for about 2 years - 1 year of that we were engaged. He moved up to Atlanta for grad school and I followed a year later. It didn't make sense for me to move into my own place in a city where I hardly knew anyone. Plus, the whole reason I was moving up there was for him. I did lay out my expectations before I moved in with him after seeing my best friend move in with her boyfriend and not having her expectations met (marriage). In fact, they've been living together for almost 5 years now AND he somehow conned her into moving in with his parents and becoming the caretaker for his mother with MS but yet still no ring. I let my husband (boyfriend at the time) know that I wouldn't stick around if we felt after a year that it still wasn't time for marriage. We were engaged within a year and after another year of stressful wedding planning (mostly due to my mother...but that's a story in itself) we are officially married. Had we both stayed in Florida instead of moving to Atlanta, I don't think we would have lived together before we got married but our living situation was more out of convenience and necessity than a trial run. I'm glad that we did it though. I got to see all his quirks before we got married so that I could decide whether it was something I wanted to deal with for the rest of my life.
Studies show that our chance for a successful marriage is now greatly reduced. Time will tell what will happen to us but for now I'm very happy and I'm glad that I had made the decision to move in with him.
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