living together before marriage: opinions?

[RoxyGrrrl]

Living together, for me is not a means to an end in marriage. It's not the goal. I just don't see why I have to.

And I said I was thinking about hyphenating period, not IF.

A great percentage of cohabitating people who have been together even 2 years come out of it having an out of wedlock child, hoping they will get married one day, and wishing they had some paperwork to show for all the "playing house" they did when it's all said and done.

And you are perfectly right about that. This where I draw my line in the sand. I would never live together and have children. There's just no two ways about that.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by RoxyGrrrl

Living together, for me is not a means to an end in marriage.

It isnt to me, either, because marriage happens all the time without it. As some of us have said previously, I don't see the purpose in living together without an ultimate goal other than having a room mate.

Originally Posted by RoxyGrrrl

And you are perfectly right about that. This where I draw my line in the sand. I would never live together and have children. There's just no two ways about that.

A lot of people say they would not live together and have children but children end up showing up somehow. Cohabitation creates the all-too-familiar context and leads to a lot of things that people do not foresee, in general.

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Good luck! Hyphenated names are the way to go!