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Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum
I know I'm not the person you asked, but I'm throwing this out there anyway:
It's weird because most friendships we consider mutually beneficial; both parties get something out of the deal: entertainment, support, networking, whatever.
While you can easily see why an older person serving as a mentor or having a selfless interest in a younger person like a niece or neighbor is beneficial for the kid, when the older person starts to expect whatever usual benefits that we get from friendship in return, that makes the person weird.
A 45 year old man shouldn't turn to 14 year old girls for relationship advice or affirmation, it seems to me.
So if you had several older men who offered you advice and support and you think of them as friends, that's great, but I'd probably classify the relationship a little differently. If you actually hung out with 45 year old men, and they relied on you for companionship and whatever 45 year old guys talk about and do with their friends, it would seem a little weird.
ETA: it's odd that all I can come up with 45 year old guys doing for friendship involves golf or talking about landscaping or doing stuff with their wives. How sad is that?
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Yep, well said. Friendships are supposed to be equal.
The 14 year old might think it's cool to hang out with older people, but I think it's odd that a 40 year old would find it enjoyable to hang out with 14 year olds...what does a 14 year old have to offer a 40 year old? I'd have to believe that it was sexual, honestly. I guess I just wouldn't trust any 40 year old that wants to hang out with 14 year olds. Especially alone.
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