40 y.o. track coach marries his student :(

[Rudey]

Your statement is beyond ridiculous. A 30 year old and a 45 year old have nothing in common. They are at completely different stages in life. The same can be said of a 22 year old right out of college and a 26 year old. That's 4 years of real life adult living that separates them. I've been with young girls and old cougars, and the only reason has been sexual on my part. But girls pull off some BS argument about how they mature faster than men (not even an argument since most women can't back it up) and that older men are mature (yeah a 45 year old who hasn't been in a long term relationship is real mature). If you ask me the older guy wants fresh puss and the younger girl wants cash.

If there's something wrong with a 40 year old and a 14 year old, then there's something wrong with someone that magically crosses the 18 year old divide. Plus that divide is a legal one and in this case it's legal, so it shouldn't be a problem right?

-Rudey

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I should amend my statement:

When both parties are clearly adults and at the same basic stage of life, the same number of years might not be a big age difference. A 30 year old dating a 45 year old, a sixty year old dating a 75 year old, whatev.

When we're talking about relationships that started back in the past when people often quit school to go to work before they'd be out of high school today, I don't think someone dating a 16 year old girls was quite as weird (also because everyone in town was likely to know the guy and know if he was a creep). People took on full adult responsibility earlier; sociological studies I think bear our the idea that people are taking longer to be independent today than we used to, which implies that younger people were actually more mature in the past.

That said, dating a teenager today when you are in your thirties or older is almost always weird and creepy. Something is likely wrong with you developmentally if you continue to date people who are teenagers long after you're not a teenagers yourself. You should be more mature and the fact that a teen would be so easily manipulated by you or is still interested in high school stuff should turn you off if you're normal.

For every case today where it might be true love under unusual circumstances, I'll show you 20 where there's something wrong with the older party (and maybe the younger as well).