40 y.o. track coach marries his student :(

[kstar]

Originally Posted by Taualumna

What kind of name is Windy?

It is usually spelled Wendy, and was originally short for Gwendolyn.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by kstar

It is usually spelled Wendy, and was originally short for Gwendolyn.

Somehow I don't think her name is a variation on the spelling of Wendy.

I don't think we can say that a couple who has such a larg age gap between them is doomed to fail. I know a few couple who have 20 some odd years between them and they are very happy.

Let's say they really do love each other, I don't know why he wouldn't wait till she was at least 18 to get married? This leaves me to believe that this guy is a total creep.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by AGDLynn

Okay, let the betting start on how short this marriage will last.

Yup and start betting how fast she starts popping out kids

Originally Posted by James

Oh this isn't meant as disapproval but I thought it was funny:

HILARIOUS! I like that one

Originally Posted by Educatingblue

My husband said the same thing. I blame her parents for signing.

When I read the article the first thing that popped in my mind is they (the girls family) are probably very conservative, live in a sheltered community, and probably wanted her married if they knew she had sex.

She manipulated her parents because they allowed her to. What is this "I am not going to talk to you until you sign" bullshit? Their hands were forced? Puh-leeze

[UGAalum94]

I should amend my statement:

When both parties are clearly adults and at the same basic stage of life, the same number of years might not be a big age difference. A 30 year old dating a 45 year old, a sixty year old dating a 75 year old, whatev.

When we're talking about relationships that started back in the past when people often quit school to go to work before they'd be out of high school today, I don't think someone dating a 16 year old girls was quite as weird (also because everyone in town was likely to know the guy and know if he was a creep). People took on full adult responsibility earlier; sociological studies I think bear our the idea that people are taking longer to be independent today than we used to, which implies that younger people were actually more mature in the past.

That said, dating a teenager today when you are in your thirties or older is almost always weird and creepy. Something is likely wrong with you developmentally if you continue to date people who are teenagers long after you're not a teenagers yourself. You should be more mature and the fact that a teen would be so easily manipulated by you or is still interested in high school stuff should turn you off if you're normal.

For every case today where it might be true love under unusual circumstances, I'll show you 20 where there's something wrong with the older party (and maybe the younger as well).

[Rudey]

Your statement is beyond ridiculous. A 30 year old and a 45 year old have nothing in common. They are at completely different stages in life. The same can be said of a 22 year old right out of college and a 26 year old. That's 4 years of real life adult living that separates them. I've been with young girls and old cougars, and the only reason has been sexual on my part. But girls pull off some BS argument about how they mature faster than men (not even an argument since most women can't back it up) and that older men are mature (yeah a 45 year old who hasn't been in a long term relationship is real mature). If you ask me the older guy wants fresh puss and the younger girl wants cash.

If there's something wrong with a 40 year old and a 14 year old, then there's something wrong with someone that magically crosses the 18 year old divide. Plus that divide is a legal one and in this case it's legal, so it shouldn't be a problem right?

-Rudey

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I should amend my statement:

When both parties are clearly adults and at the same basic stage of life, the same number of years might not be a big age difference. A 30 year old dating a 45 year old, a sixty year old dating a 75 year old, whatev.

When we're talking about relationships that started back in the past when people often quit school to go to work before they'd be out of high school today, I don't think someone dating a 16 year old girls was quite as weird (also because everyone in town was likely to know the guy and know if he was a creep). People took on full adult responsibility earlier; sociological studies I think bear our the idea that people are taking longer to be independent today than we used to, which implies that younger people were actually more mature in the past.

That said, dating a teenager today when you are in your thirties or older is almost always weird and creepy. Something is likely wrong with you developmentally if you continue to date people who are teenagers long after you're not a teenagers yourself. You should be more mature and the fact that a teen would be so easily manipulated by you or is still interested in high school stuff should turn you off if you're normal.

For every case today where it might be true love under unusual circumstances, I'll show you 20 where there's something wrong with the older party (and maybe the younger as well).

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by Rudey

Your statement is beyond ridiculous. A 30 year old and a 45 year old have nothing in common. They are at completely different stages in life. The same can be said of a 22 year old right out of college and a 26 year old. That's 4 years of real life adult living that separates them. I've been with young girls and old cougars, and the only reason has been sexual on my part. But girls pull off some BS argument about how they mature faster than men (not even an argument since most women can't back it up) and that older men are mature (yeah a 45 year old who hasn't been in a long term relationship is real mature). If you ask me the older guy wants fresh puss and the younger girl wants cash.

If there's something wrong with a 40 year old and a 14 year old, then there's something wrong with someone that magically crosses the 18 year old divide. Plus that divide is a legal one and in this case it's legal, so it shouldn't be a problem right?

-Rudey

What?

I understand that 30 to 45 is still pretty big depending on what people are doing in their lives at that point; you probably have a point there, but it's still not as weird as 15 to 30.

And 22 to 26 is doesn't seem that big a jump to me if they are both out of college.